A heart in love - the great equalizer

In preparation for my book, writing women, self-esteem and relationships, I spoke with a lot of people. I've heard their stories, it became clear that the one thing we all have in common as human beings is our vulnerability to love and matters of the heart.

Whether you are a man or a woman, it is begging someone, at some point, if you bring the power you to your knees, more sweet torture will have. Someone of you the deepest joy and the most horrific pain conceivable feel will result. A person you never thought existed, whom you love and hate at the same time. And on the day that you recognize that you done, you as a fighter for the answer of life love puzzle.

More specifically, the journey are all other travel, you start which, similarly as the road. You feel as if you were in a labyrinth of twists and turns, high and low altitude experience times of mind-numbing boredom and heart pounding surprise including are.

And as I have found out the reasons for your blind trip on the sea of nothing but peace arise directly from your relationship with your beloved one and may include, but are not limited to the following: insecurity, jealousy, language problems, mood fluctuations, misdiagnosing problems, infidelity, lack of mechanical skill and aggravation due to sleep deprivation! In other words, you are crazy to each other.

And, if and as long as you complete the above puzzle, you can use a rather confusing cycle of repetition of the same error with a variety of possible MS or Mr to establish rights. Instead navigate the boat with their feet not you would rather quietly through these rough waters steering, while enjoying the Sun and sipping on champagne on your way back from pleasure Iceland?

Okay, please forgive my overuse of images, but I'm trying to go home a point. We are all capable, loved and we can all hurt. However, by identifying the answers to the most common problems tormented by women and men, we can the playing field to restrict, to nip it in the bud (here I go again) and shorten the distance to happiness if we really really want, for which we so crave.

Because true love not like in the cinema. It is messy and needs hard work and understanding and a sense of humor. It means high heels and passing gas and carpet Burns and tissue sports and unbearable relatives and friends... and goodness and compromise and forgiveness. But at the end of the day, not that all heart wants and needs?

Audrey Valeriani is an author, freelance writer, trainer, columnist for the Malden observer (MA), consultant for eHarmony advice, creator/host of http://www.bootcampforthebrokenhearted.com and relationship expert for Womensweb.ca. She is also Board Chairman of self esteem Boston educational Institute, Inc. Her book is boot camp for the emotion: how to survive (and be happy) in the jungle of love (new horizon press, December 2007). You can contact her at theaccidentalexpert@comcast.net