I have often wondered about "true love". I, personally, bloom on feelings and the idea of giving, sharing and getting. It's in my genes; my blood. It's simply my emotional personality and I like that about myself. However, I am not unique. We, as humans, flourish on such affection and appreciation. We thrive on love tie-ups! We are meant to... it's in our DNA... yours and mine!

As people enter our lives, it's normal for us to end up putting a "special someone" on a pedestal. It's then that life takes on a new meaning! It's all about two hearts beating as one - unconditional. On top of that, the sex puts a pretty floral lid on our hearts - Happy and content in our orbits! True love baby, Just for you!

And then... THUMP! Heart Break Hotel - Welcome!

Love goes to the boiler... A rude shock - the adorable "US" is not "US" anymore! As the mind zooms into reality... the heart churns out, like a broken record, a... 'Why?! Bar tender... pour me a relationship on the rocks, please!... Sigh.

Seriously, you and I know relationships are hard to maintain, but when an alliance crumbles, it's unbearable. So, we ditch love and change the equation - we become friends! And why not? We loved truly, did we not? So now it's all good and things should be status quo right? Wrong! In spite of our maintained connect, our "love genes'"begin to kick in and two things begin to happen -

1. We grapple in despair as we desperately cling to our "friendship" hoping to revive our love ticks and / or

2. We start looking for love again -somewhere else; with someone else. We move... on!

Quick deep thought flash: If we dumped love so swiftly in the first place, was it real? Maybe not. Take a quiet a moment. Think about it.

Hey! Wait a minute! While all this may sound somewhat gloomy, I am a hardcore believer of a real love alliance. It exists! Yes, it does. I'm sure of it. And once experienced it can never be replaced... ever.

What makes a "Soul mate" Connection different?

It has a simple aura that demands to be understood.

In our grinding lives, we don't have time to think about this "high flying philosophy". Yet, we are constantly in search of it! As we go through the flow of life we enter relationships, hoping it to be 'the one'!

See, here's the thing, though, if we are truly blessed and lucky... a Soul bond creeps into our lives - quietly, gently and surely. With love as it's only agenda, it slowly makes a "difficult to explain" impact on the duo. A once in a lifetime connect... " someone who reminds us of ourselves yet" we've never met anyone like them before.!".. right under our noses.

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This true love bonding is definitely NOT a fairy tale; it's not ONLY about gifts, mind blowing sex, love songs, chocolates, Valentine's day and teddy bears.. (Though all of that is great!) And contrary to popular belief, it's NOT always a walk in the park; feels difficult, too, at times. Why?

Because sincere bonding mirrors everything WE need to fix in OURSELVES! Through struggles, fights, laughter, love, tears, fun - From sharing dreams, despair, sex, blows to our egos - To making adjustments, grabbing each other UP by the elbows or watching each others' backs, these relationships stick it out, for better or worse as we are shaken up to being our real selves... in every way!

Waking up to our long forgotten, deeply-buried true selves can be painful, fearful but unbelievably fulfilling too! Through it all, we begin to be who we are... not who we "think" we are! Driving home precious lessons for both... the strength and safety of their crystal clear Love and friendship, being the most important of all. With patience and time these roller coaster "misfits' turn into a... "perfect fit"!

Having a hard time believing what I write? - Consider this: We know everything changes... nothing ever stays the same, so why would people? Why do we believe in the premise that people never change? People change. Yes we do. Our experiences change us regularly... and so do our relationships... constantly.

In case you didn't know!: What's awesome about these relationships? - "Friendship" already exists in them - but not as a compromise! It's a strong subtle unbreakable thread, providing stability and being a silent backbone to the cord of love already present between the two, as it stands the tests of time. The foundation of these relationships is Love laced with friendship... not friendship entwined in love! Get what I mean?

Simply put, friendship never 'takes over' from love, because if it's ever allowed to do so then love has no room to survive! Loves' DNA which includes romance, sex, intimacy of emotions, mind and body all dies! Genuine love will never settle for anything less... Or... dump its pure nature... simply to keep in touch..! And if it were to "move on"... where would it go? It's already home.

... It's an 'All or nothing at all" bond, given to us as a gift, from above, that holds this amazing union in the way it is meant to be... A true Love relationship held together by friendship.

Heaven's 'Golden Couples'... the skies call them by their special name... 'Besties in Love'

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