Are you currently doing things that may be negatively affecting your love relationship? We don't always understand the impact of the things we do or say until it's too late. It's important to avoid the things that inadvertently hurt or push our partner away.

Here are 10 things you should never do in a love relationship...ever!

1. Don't stop falling in love over and over again

Successful couples continually fall in love with each other. They find new reasons to be in love with their partner and don't let the petty day-to-day things ruin those feelings. Love doesn't have to die after commitment. In fact, it should grow to ever increasing heights. So, feel free to fall in love all over again....and again...and again.

2. Don't value being right over being loving

Too many of us want to be right more than we want to be loving. We choose winning an argument over continually winning the heart of our loved one. When you have to be right, you are simultaneously making your partner wrong. Don't engage in these 1 or the other conversations. Instead, value your partner's opinion and then offer up yours. They are both opinions, so 1 is not more or less correct than the other. They are simply 2 different perspectives. If you continue to make your partner feel wrong, they will stop offering their opinion to you. That doesn't lead to any place good.

3. Don't stop planning together for the future

It could be planning for the kid's college or the next vacation. It could be planning for retirement or for a friend's birthday party. The key is to keep planning together for the future. When you do so, you create common goals to pursue as a unit. This strengthens the bonds of partnership, friendship, and mutual admiration. Find something you are both interested in doing, and work on it together. You are either growing closer together or further apart. Planning together helps to keep you growing together.

4. Don't stop being attractive for your partner

Many couples stop doing the things that led to the relationship in the first place. If you figured that once you were in a committed relationship that you could stop engaging in attractive behaviors, you were mistaken. Each person in the partnership expected the other to continue doing and saying the things they found attractive. So, flirt. Wear clothing that your partner finds you flattering in. Remind your partner how attractive they are to you. Be playful, be thoughtful and be loving. Be irresistible to your partner and allow them to return the favor.

5. Don't embarrass your partner publicly

Remember this simple rule: Praise publicly and criticize privately. When the need arises to tell your partner something difficult, do so in the most humble, loving, respectful and honest way possible. In public, tell everyone about how fantastic your partner is. Talk about the things you find best in them. Positive attention is a reward of sorts, and what gets rewarded gets repeated. Your partner trusts you with their heart and emotional security. Don't publicly criticize your partner.

6. Don't say "Always" or "Never" while arguing

Whenever we say our partner always does something or never does something, we are exaggerating. The discussion then turns to how the partner being accused must defend themselves against this blatant mischaracterization. The conversation then turns to how you always or never do something. Let's avoid all of this. When you partner does something you don't appreciate, say so then and there. Be respectful, yet honest. Don't pull in past issues. Avoid saying the words "always" and "never" at all costs. Focus on the event or the issue at hand only. Work together to decide how it should be handled next time. Then move on.

7. Don't use intimacy as a weapon

Do you grant intimacy or take it away as a method of persuading your spouse to do what you want? If so, you are cheapening a relationship expression of love by making it a tool of negotiation. Eventually, your partner may not want to express intimacy towards you or receive it from you because of the conditions attached to it. There should be no conditions on expressions of love. Therefore, stop using intimacy as a weapon. This is your partner! Intimacy should come with no strings attached. It is a beautiful and loving expression that should not be used to manipulate your partner.

8. Don't talk negatively about your partner to others

So, your partner does something you think is disrespectful. You tell your friends about it. Later, you and your partner determine it was a simple misunderstanding. When you come back around your friends with your partner, what is their impression? Are they seeing your partner as a disrespectful person? Do they have a full understanding that there was simply a miscommunication between you? We are quick to tell everyone about the bad, and very slow to tell them about the good. Be careful. You could be ruining your partner's reputation even as you know them to be a great person. Avoid talking negatively about your partner.

9. Don't stop nurturing the relationship

Constantly look for ways to assist your partner. Listen with the intent to understand as they talk about things that are important to them. Be present for all of your partner's major life moments. That includes illness, major victories, crushing defeats, and family events. Go out on dates. Vacation together. Treasure warm conversation over a hot meal. Express love to each other in the way your partner needs to receive it. Be supportive at all times. Remember that the one you love and gave your heart to is worthy of the very best from you.

10. Don't break your commitments

Your commitment to monogamy is crucial; so don't go looking outside for what you already have at home. If you say you are going to do something, do that very thing when and how you promised it to be done. Your word has value that diminishes each time you don't honor your commitments. So, honor yourself and your partner by honoring your commitments. Do what you said you would do each and every time. Your partner will appreciate you more for it.

James LeGrand is an Author, Life Strategist, and the publisher of http://www.SpiritualIndividual.com, a free weekly newsletter that presents solutions to life's issues through the lens of self-help, wisdom, philosophy and spirituality. He is the author of an Amazon.com best seller in Religion and Spirituality titled Evolve, and an Expert Author with Ezine Articles.com & SelfGrowth.com. James LeGrand is also a Radio Personality, and a Sifu in Shaolin Kungfu, which has been known for centuries as a pathway to spiritual enlightenment.

If you're like a lot of people in long-standing married or committed relationships, you may be secretly wishing your love relationship was as close and loving as it used to be. There seems to be separation and disconnection and you just don't look at each other the same way as you used to. There's probably a lot of friendship and maybe cooperation between you but the passion has died or at least dimmed a little throughout the years.

The good news is that you can rekindle passion that has died. It just takes a bit of refocusing, looking at your partner in a new way and it starts outside of the bedroom.

If you don't know where to start turning up the heat and putting more life and love back into your relationship, here are some suggestions...

1. It may be trite but so true...never go to bed angry. Of all the couples we've talked with and interviewed who have been married 30, 40, and 50 years, this is the most consistent advice they have given us. Take some time when something comes up between the two of you to talk it out.

2. Be generous with sincere compliments and thanks. Sincere compliments and thanks can uplift you and your partner-and can draw you closer. So often a compliment or a word of thanks is followed up by a complaint. If this is your habit, stop doing it.

3. Continue to explore each other. There's always something new you can learn about your loved one, even if you have been together for many years. Don't assume that you know everything about them.

4. Be kind to each other. We're always amazed at how many people say they love one another and they aren't very kind to each other. Being kind means using kind words and being considerate of each other. Even if you have been together a long time, treat each other as you would treat someone of immense importance to you.

5. Even if you are busy or tired, open your heart to your partner. Opening your heart means taking the time to listen and understand your partner. It means telling your partner what's important to you and not making assumptions.

These are just a few of the things that bring us closer and help us to make each day
special together and keep our relationship alive, passionate and filled with love.

Always remember that love is a choice that we open up to in every moment. You always have the choice of where you place your attention. We hope that you'll join us in choosing love more of the time.

Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors who help people create lives that are filled with more passion, love and connection.

For more tips on turning up the heat in your love relationship, sign up for their free mini-course at http://www.RedHotLoveRelationships.com

Through our research, we've found that a wonderfully
harmonious bond (and variations of it) between two
people, whether it is a work, family, friendship, or love
relationship, is either there, or it isn't.

We've also found that past lives with other people
strongly influence what is experienced with them today.

Therefore, past life regression, when the focus is on
the root cause of a problem and forgiveness, can
definitely help to heal present life relationships.

Don't believe in reincarnation? It doesn't matter.

Whether past life scenes perceived in past life
regression are real or imagined, both believers
and skeptics can benefit from this powerful
therapy.

But can the power of love and forgiveness alter
destiny?

If a relationship is meant to end, based on the
personal timing of the individuals involved and
what they (their souls, not their personalities)
decided before incarnating, can they (their
personalities) choose to override that?

Well, as we've said before, our position is that you
can't cheat fate. Of course, the couple could stay
together if they really wanted to, but it would likely
feel unnatural (if they were honest with themselves)
and potentially cause a lot of stress.

The good news is that if you change your perspective
of love relationships by dropping your expectations
(for permanence, someone to "complete" you, and the
other relationship traps in our society that you're
conditioned to embrace) and accept each relationship
as it's meant to be, they become less difficult and more
satisfying. Of course, starting with a solid foundation of
self love and respect is important too.

Our comprehensive numerology and astrology
(compatibility and individual personal cyclical timing),
along with psychic/intuitive readings indicates to us
the level of compatibility and the timing of relationship
rewards and challenges.

For example, we could indicate, on a scale of 1-100, just
how compatible you are with your mate as seen through
our work.

Also, we could indicate the duration potential of your
bond. In other words, we'd tell you when things were,
are, and will be "good" and when they aren't, along with
our professional opinion as to if the relationship has "seen
better days."

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Scott Petullo and Stephen Petullo are identical twins and have been exploring metaphysics since the early 1980?s. They are experts in the fields of prediction, personal fate, love life, and past life regression, and are natural psychics and mediums. Get their free report: 13 Spiritual and New Age Myths and 11 Questions to Ask before hiring Psychic. http://www.mystictwins.com http://www.holisticmakeover.com

Healthy and sweet relationship is the nectar that all of us aspire at the end of the day. Really, the conjugal relationship is expected to be full of merriment and meaningful for every couple. If we look around, we find that the people surrounding us also need some kind of support with better attitude and lively connections with each other to make this wonderful world, a place for enjoyment and happiness. This is one face of the relationship value, but there is an opposite side as well. And, it pains to say so that a lovely and positive relationship turns sour mostly on trivial grounds. The sudden change in the environment makes us feel that, it is not roses all along, but thorns are there in the way. We call it the truth because we suffer from the agony.

To my mind, a relationship turns weary due to one feature, which is present in most of us with the difference in the degree of intensity. The culprit in our character is ego. Best friends turn enemies when the ego takes the drivers seat and rules our minds. The bondage of friendship in a marital relationship is smashed cruelly, when one of them plays slave in the hands of ego. We must learn to improve our nature of thinking and find out a common platform to avoid individual sufferings.

We can make the world better and keep our relationship intact, if we allow some space for the other person in our lives. In all spheres of our contacts such as in conjugal life, friendship or in workplaces, if you leave a little room for the other partner to have his or her say, we can create a better world for us to live in. Let us not give too much importance to the power of individual ego, which never bears any positive result.

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Friendship is a special bond that often blooms into a romantic relationship with the opposite sex. It does not happen always but when it happens it is a sensitive situation. You need to take care in this situation.

Know his heart before you own it

Friendship helps you know him even before you make him your own. Remember that although he is so like you, he is not. He may have his own point of view and respecting each others' viewpoint is the best way to become more intimate.

Compromise is a strict no no!

Respecting his viewpoint does not mean compromising on your own beliefs. Do not compromise your own principles to please him. Remember this relationship is worth a lifetime. So love him only if he deserves you. A strong personality and determined attitude is what presents a woman in the right light. Men definitely prefer sensible women.

Now that you know him and you feel he really is the Mr. Right you have been looking for, here are couple of tips to make him think on the same lines about you too!

Look your best when he is around

To make him fall in love, dazzle him with your looks. It is a fact that in spite of all the technological advancement in the world, men still fall for women with attractive looks. On the opposite, women fall for men with attractive personality. An attractive personality with the right dressing sense makes every man's head turn. Your dressing style tells a lot about your persona and how you are feeling. So express yourself, make him know that you are beautiful inside out and see him go crazy about you.

Know the shortcut

Emotions are the shortcut to his heart. Be there when he needs you. As you both are friends, he may seek emotional support from you. Add a little more depth to this without transgressing your friendship, if you are still not sure about his feelings for you. This emotional intimacy with you may spark the love and is surely a signal that he has developed a special liking for you. It will not take too long for him to propose to you.

Don't get disheartened

Even after the emotional intimacy, he may still not show any keenness for your friendship to mature into a romantic one. Be patient sooner or later he will understand and accept you. Remember Rome was not built in a day.

Wishing you all the best in making your friend, a partner for life!

K V Gautam has written extensively on dating and relationships. Currently, he provides dating tips for men on a leading entertainment Web portal http://www.fundoofun.com/

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