5 Ways to Turn Up the Heat in Your Love Relationship or Marriage

If you're like a lot of people in long-standing married or committed relationships, you may be secretly wishing your love relationship was as close and loving as it used to be. There seems to be separation and disconnection and you just don't look at each other the same way as you used to. There's probably a lot of friendship and maybe cooperation between you but the passion has died or at least dimmed a little throughout the years.

The good news is that you can rekindle passion that has died. It just takes a bit of refocusing, looking at your partner in a new way and it starts outside of the bedroom.

If you don't know where to start turning up the heat and putting more life and love back into your relationship, here are some suggestions...

1. It may be trite but so true...never go to bed angry. Of all the couples we've talked with and interviewed who have been married 30, 40, and 50 years, this is the most consistent advice they have given us. Take some time when something comes up between the two of you to talk it out.

2. Be generous with sincere compliments and thanks. Sincere compliments and thanks can uplift you and your partner-and can draw you closer. So often a compliment or a word of thanks is followed up by a complaint. If this is your habit, stop doing it.

3. Continue to explore each other. There's always something new you can learn about your loved one, even if you have been together for many years. Don't assume that you know everything about them.

4. Be kind to each other. We're always amazed at how many people say they love one another and they aren't very kind to each other. Being kind means using kind words and being considerate of each other. Even if you have been together a long time, treat each other as you would treat someone of immense importance to you.

5. Even if you are busy or tired, open your heart to your partner. Opening your heart means taking the time to listen and understand your partner. It means telling your partner what's important to you and not making assumptions.

These are just a few of the things that bring us closer and help us to make each day
special together and keep our relationship alive, passionate and filled with love.

Always remember that love is a choice that we open up to in every moment. You always have the choice of where you place your attention. We hope that you'll join us in choosing love more of the time.

Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors who help people create lives that are filled with more passion, love and connection.

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