Monday, April 16, 2012

Can You Tame a Womanizer? - Win the Gamble and Enjoy a Loving Monogamous Relationship


Can a woman tame a womanizer? Fat chance. What is a womanizer? He's a man who has love affairs with women and will not marry or commit to a relationship. Of course it's not 100% impossible to tame him, but do you really want to expend time and energy on a gamble? Let us consider a couple points about the womanizer.

He generally emits strong sexual attraction. There's just an irresistible animal appeal about him that draw women to him like flies to honey. He completely mesmerizes them with his charm. At first, he is very attentive; even spoiling her with candlelight dinner, beautiful flowers, and gifts thrown in that make him even more desirable.

He is generally a smooth talker. He has learned to say what women want to hear and takes full advantage of her gullibility to believe his every word. He calls often. And text messages more.

He is usually good looking, but not always. His appeal comes from that indescribable "it" factor. And his incredibly strong sense of self confidence.

He often uses "good sex" as leverage to control. She becomes so enamored of him it's as if she is under his spell. Combining all the above, she is convinced he loves her, and in her mind it's just a matter of time before he proposes.

But he doesn't.

After a few months, she notices he doesn't call as often. He's been seen with other women. He cancels dates. When she complains, he makes her feel guilty for asking. When she tries to pin him down, he explodes and let's her know he's in charge and if she doesn't like it to leave.

But she doesn't budge because by now, she's head over heels in love with him...and he knows it.

Therefore to keep her, he doesn't have to promise her anything. He doesn't have to be monogamous. He doesn't have to make a commitment. He calls the shots because he knows she's hooked on him, and he uses this knowledge for his own selfish ends. He's a user.

Does he consciously use her? Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. It doesn't matter. Either way she loses.

How does a woman break free from the emotional dominance of a womanizer?

First, recognize that this man is a player. That's not hard to figure out. Problem is some women fool themselves into believing that somehow she is different. That she can tame him. That he will be faithful to her, ignoring the unfaithfulness he has shown to other women.

Next ask these questions: When she pleads for his attention, does he offer words of consolation? Does he use words of reassurance to ease her mind? Follow up questions would be: Is this how the love of my life would respond to me? Is this man serious about committing to me or does he simply want to play? Wouldn't I be better off spending time dating a man ready for marriage?

In summary the answer to the question posted: Can a womanizer be tamed?...is I guess if he decides he wants to, he can, but that's a BIG gamble.




My name is Donna Patterson. At http://www.readyformarriagedating.com, I teach women the limits of Uncommitted love and sex to instead discover the six critical decisions necessary to establish Committed Love first, leading to genuine love and a husband as best friend in marriage based on a six-step transitions process. Also, Download 6 FREE Sure-Fire Dating Tips. Click here: http://www.readyformarriagedating.com




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