Abuse abuse in relationships of Teen - and the members of the family - is a learned behaviour

Before enter you a serious dating relationship, you must take into account the members of the family of one that you are dating. If the abuse has been the "standard" in the life of someone and their family members abuse verbally, emotionally, physically, you have to remember that often abuse is a learned behavior. Unfortunately, it is very difficult to defeat learned behavior.

Recently, a school intervention counselor told me boy old teenager that she had spoken with who showed his bruises fist at least a dozen size on his arm and upper torso. Let's call him Trey. They told him that he really loved Liz but Liz was still shouting at him and literally hit on him. Ms. Smith, the Advisor of the school knew better that she took his knowledge the young lady in question. Trey was not his first friend or the first that she had assaulted with his fists and his mouth. Ms. Smith also met with mother and the grandmother of Liz. Both had been verbally abrasive, insulting, and both had slapped Liz in the past.

Apparently, all three have lived under the same roof. And a strong voice in anger and hitting and slapping a mode of behavior direct and very learned family, passed from mother to child to his grandchildren.

Ms. wisely advised Smith Trey that because Liz had already attacked, it will continue to do so in the future until she got the help she needed "unlearn" learned behavior. The truth is if Liz does not "Unlearning" and just learning to communicate, it is no doubt with pass to his children and grandchildren.

Take account of this true story. A young groom because his new wife cut the tip of a ham and put it in a separate pot to cook. "Honey, why did you do?". Reply - "I know,." This is how my mother has always been is very curious and called his new stepmother and him raises the same question. He was even more surprised by his response, which was exactly what his wife her. Determined to go at the bottom of the story, he calls his grandmother in new law and asked him questions. Burst laugh and asked "are girls still do this?" I did it because I didn't have enough to put in a mold of. »

Although you may chuckle at this story, always remember that the members of the family influence the person you are dating, positively or negatively. And it can be a disaster for you if it is something more serious that cut the ham into two parts to fit in pots and pans. Last time I spoke with Ms. Smith, Trey was wearing a scarf and a cast in the colours of the school - the fracture was a small gift from Liz.

Article from copyright 2008 by Linda Culbreth. You may freely reproduce this article as long as use you it exactly as it is with no changes, additions or omissions, including the resource box.

Linda Culbreth "Eagle" is a speaker and author of the resource box: A hero, not a zero, more than 1,000 Questions each Couple must ask before they marry and other work which can be found at [http://www.eaglesport.biz]

As a survivor of abuse on the part of someone who was supposed to love it, Eagle wants to stop teen abuse of one to three daughters of experience. Date a hero, not a zero is a home study course that allows parents and their adolescents against dating violence and rape. [http://www.eaglesport.biz/1.html] Subscribe to the Date_A_Hero! Bulletin boards of parents to the http://home.ezezine.com/2174/