Have you ever wondered if the guy you are seeing is playing the field? Have you ever had any suspicion that he is not just dating you? Have you ever suspected that you are one of the dozen or so girls he goes out with? Do you want to make sure that he is on the same page with you before the "exclusivity talk?" Read on to discover the 5 signs that he is dating someone else ...

It takes him forever to return your phone calls. No matter what excuses he uses, such as "I'm swamped with work," or "I have a project deadline," the chance is that he is indeed very busy ... dating other women. Remember, if a guy doesn't call, he is either not interested or is too busy with other women. As a busy woman, do you really want to spend your time with a guy who doesn't place you high on his priority list?
He doesn't keep his promises. If a guy asks you out for a date, then fails to follow through with setting up the specific details, guess what? He is busy setting up dates with other women. When a guy really wants something, he follows through, always!
He never asks you to visit his place. If a guy never wants you to get close to his house or apartment, the chances are that he has something to hide. Maybe a girlfriend, a wife, or even a few kids. If you feel that something doesn't add up, you should question him directly and get the answers you want.
His phone is constantly off and you get his answering machine 95% of the time. If a guy's phone is always off, you can be sure that he is screening his calls and only returns the calls of women he wants to see that night.
His kissing style suddenly changes. The only reason for this one is that he got some "feedback" somewhere else.

This covers some basics. To learn more about attracting a guy you really like, visit Unforgettable Woman Dating Advice and start transforming your love life today!

Being in a relationship, most of the time, is the best thing in the world. It is inevitable, however, that you will come across relationship problems that need to be addressed. What you have to be careful about is neglecting another human being in some way as to distance yourself from them. Before your issues become serious deal breakers, here are some tips to learn how to deal with relationship problems more effectively.

Are you just plain tired? Are both of you working? Long work hours are notorious for ruining perfectly good relationships. If you have kids, all the more reason to acknowledge your exhaustion. What to Do - Slow down. Cut down on non-essential work. Make more time for sleep and regular breaks away. And think seriously about shortening your hours. That may mean less income, but the reward could be a stronger relationship and less stress which will kill more than your relationship. Too much stress will kill you.

Speaking of stress, if you demand a lot of yourself or if family, friends and boss demand a lot of you, then sheer stress may make you irritable and depressed. Feeling affectionate or passionate will be the last thing on your mind in the evening. What to Do - You need to relax. Half an hour spent listening to music, or better still a relaxation CD, can cool you down enough to give and receive love. Longer term, take steps to investigate alternative approaches - like aromatherapy - to help keep you more relaxed on a day-to-day basis.

Want to take a drink? Think again. It can be very tempting. Come in, get a bottle of wine out of the refrigerator. Before you know it, you're a few glasses down and in the mood for a fight. Alcohol removes your normal safeguards, so you end up saying things just to get at your partner, and saying them aggressively. What to Do - If you regularly drink in the evening, water it down or choose low alcohol drinks. Or cut out drinking during the week and just drink on the weekends, when you're not so likely to have had a hard day.

If your lifestyle dictates that you spend a lot of time with each other, then you can get on each other's nerves through over-exposure. Need some space? Yes, we all need time alone. It is very important to remain independent within your relationship or risk losing each other. What to Do - If you don't have much room at home, then go for a walk or have an early night. Down time on the computer helps too - so long as you don't spend all your time online and no time with your love.

There are a lot more relationship problems and ways to deal with them. The examples above only scratch the surface. For more about how to deal with relationship problems, start by visiting the website mentioned below.

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Women generally look out for some key qualities in a man. Some men are blessed with these qualities but if you are like most men, you will have to cultivate them. They are pretty easy to acquire if you know how. You will succeed or fail with women to the degree you absorb and practice these secrets hidden from most men. Have you ever wondered why all the sweet, lovely and sexy girls go after some guys, and not others? Why do some men labor so hard to attract women while others seem to have all the girls they could ever need at the flick of a thumb? Some of the secrets will be revealed in this article.

GIRLS LOVE GUYS WHO DRESS SMARTLY

Are you a smart dresser? If you are not, then you may actually be denying yourself easy and, for the best part, free access to lots of attractive ladies. Ladies love clean, stylishly dressed guys. Psychologically, it shows you are well organized and can take care of yourself. In her mind, she says, "If he can take care of himself, then I bet he can take good care of me". You have heard it said that first impression matters a lot, but I will add that your regular appearance is very important to women. How you dress is a big chunk of the impression you create. Do something about your clothes today. Dressing smart is not only cheap but the wise thing to do if you want women to run after you!

ARE YOU STINGY WITH COMPLIMENTS?

Women love and luxuriate in compliments. They especially love to have their appearance complimented at every opportunity. If you can fulfill this craving for compliments, they will always be at your beck and call. Girls generally love a guy who tells them they are beautiful at all times. Please don't say I told you to repeat," You are beautiful", to a girl 24 hours a day. That would be nonsensical. Just say how good she looks in appropriate situations and do it regularly. You should never, never grow tired of doing it. Even my Mom loves it so much when I tell her she looks lovely! Imagine the wonders it would do for you when you begin to practice it on the ladies you desire. Yes, it will turn you into a woman magnet!

DO YOU LISTEN WHEN GIRLS TALK OR DO YOU YAB YOUR HEAD OFF?

You may have heard it said, "Nobody listens, everyone is just waiting their turn to speak". In no area is this saying more important than in dating women. If you monopolize the talking, girls will run away from you. Girls love a guy who listens with rapt attention when they talk. It makes a girl feel she is the center of your world. She would gladly spill out her most intimate secrets to you. But please I didn't say you should listen like a moron. You must murmur or talk (briefly of course!) at the appropriate places in the discussion.That's right !It is as easy as that. Just let her express her herself while showing keen interest in what she's saying.

Jennifer Pulaski, 35, is a Psychologist and freelance article writer specializing in love and relationship therapy. She lives in Lagos, Nigeria with her husband, Tom, 37 who works with an AIDS NGO in Sub-Saharan Africa and two children, Lauren, 10 and Tim, 7.

Among the daily disaster stories of broken hearts, dreams and marriages, there are huge beacons of light extending ever outwards keeping the pillars of committed relationships alive and strong. Beacons of light in the form of happy, long and solid partnerships untouched by therapeutic or counselling intervention.

You may, with a small cynical smirk, say "yes but I bet those relationships are symbiotic and unhealthy, where one person must be pandering to the needs of the other and deep down harbouring huge grudges". Yes there are some of those for sure, but what of those marriages and partnerships that are flying in the face of the 50% global divorce rates, where longevity reigns and donkeys years later they are as happy and fulfilled as the day they laid eyes on each other?

The beauty of online social networking recently collided me with a Facebook friend called Steve, who sent me a message to say thankfully he didn't need my help because his marriage to Coral has just reached its 30 year anniversary. Delighted and warmed by his words, I got to wondering just what does keep love alive for that long nowadays? I asked him if he would share with us his insights from his long and happy marriage and was thrilled when he agreed!

Reading his answers and bearing in mind the ingredients for conscious relationship, it appears that two people who genuinely love each other, don't need outside help because they just get that it IS what you can offer the relationship and each other, rather than what you can take from it, that makes it work.

1) How long have you and Coral been married and how old are your children?

Coral and I have been married for 30 years this last September. We have two children. Shaw, my son, 27 and my daughter Shirling, 25.

2) How did you guys meet and how quickly did you know you wanted to be together long term?

Coral and I met on a blind date. We hit it off straight away. By the end of the evening I felt as if I had known her for years instead of just the few hours.

Imago theory states that the feeling of "I felt as if I had known her for years" is the unconscious "matching" process stimulated by the brain and body chemicals that bonds us for the work of completion from childhood into wholeness or full adulthood. Our search is essentially an unconscious one for someone, in the main, who will create the right conditions for healing negative childhood experiences. We re-create those same conditions together in order to replay the old "movie" and get it right this time around! Deep and profound, I know, but life wasn't meant to feel bad, so we attempt to replay the less pleasant parts of our past to forge a happier and resolved outcome! You still with me? This person replicates the energy and traits of one or both of our parents, hence the feeling of "knowing" them forever. It's an ancient "ah ha" knowing. Moving on!

3) Did you have matching goals for a relationship then? If not how did you find your way together?

We didn't have any goals as such when we started dating; we just took each day as it came. Luckily our feelings for each other grew stronger every day, everything just felt so right. We just wanted to be together as much and as often as we could. We didn't have to find a way. It was just a natural progression. We went with the flow.

The feeling of naturalness and ease is beautiful. Our bodies are in sync chemically and physically and we feel an effortless ease with ourselves and the world. The potential for completeness and oneness with ourselves. So maybe we don't need common goals in the logical sense. Maybe it IS all in the feeling, the instinct, the rightness and Divine intent at play!

4) What do you believe are the key ingredients to a long term and happy marriage?

I think THE key ingredient to a happy long term relationship is to never ever stop courting each other. Always be boyfriend and girlfriend no matter how old you get and always respect each other as much as you did on that first date!

So keeping the honeymoon phase alive each day by doing something appreciative! What great advice Steve. So easy to let things slip, but a little gentle regular nurturing is no effort at all really. Simple stuff but these little gestures keep you connected and stop the chasm starting to form.

5) Conflict and more difficult times are a normal stage of any relationship. How do you both navigate through those times together and how do you resolve conflict?

Conflict depends on the circumstances. If I get upset or lose my temper, I always go away and firstly look at myself and ask myself a question, "Who is really right?". Invariably it is Coral! But logic kicks in and I apologise and admit that she is right and I was wrong. Or, if the other way around, I calmly sit down and explain why I think I am right and Coral admits that I may be right and she is wrong.

It's down to communication and the ability to hear the other person's side of the argument or problem and then resolve it. Talk to each other rather than charge at each other like a bull in a china shop, and listen to each other honestly. Try to understand the other's point of view rather than always expecting to be right on every occasion.

Wonderful stuff. Conscious communication fuelled by the desire every time to be self aware and responsible for owning your stuff. A game for two not one! Steve and Coral both have a willingness to resolve conflict with honest discussion and also with a wanting to make it right again.

6) What would you say are the major irritations in marriage and why?

I don't think there are any major irritations in marriage! Any major irritations originate from within us, through not understanding situations and circumstances. We have met many challenges in our marriage, but have always stood side by side and faced them together and overcome them.

Wise words indeed. What we feel is our stuff to own. The art of conscious communication is knowing how to kindly articulate what is coming up and to help each other feel safe enough to let the words be and to offer empathy and support.

7) How do you keep the romance alive even after bringing up children?

Keeping romance alive is so easy! I don't think anyone need ask this question. I love Coral to bits and have no problem, what so ever, in telling her every single day of our lives. I show it by always giving her a great big hug at every chance...morning, noon and night and holding her hand whenever we go out. I buy her flowers just for the fun of it and get her a Monday or a Tuesday present or an "any day" present just to see her smile and let her know that I love her. We take each other out to dinner. She gets up with me at 01:30 in the morning to make sure I have a cup of tea and a bit of breakfast before going to work. She insists on doing it! Nothing I say will make her stay in bed. Genuinely caring for each other and each other's feelings keeps the romance alive.

Beautiful! It's all about thought and kindness. Doesn't take much does it! We are programmed to experience and give joy. It is our natural essence. I wonder then that this "constancy" of keeping the romantic elements alive, keeps the negative thoughts and feelings naturally at bay?

8) Some people talk of drifting apart after having kids...why do you think that happens and how did you manage to keep your relationship strong?

People drift apart because they don't leave time in the day for each other when the kids are around. Coral and I always made time in the day for each other. We shared the chores of bringing up the kids so had time for each other. Many people spend no time together because the children take all the focus, then the parents lose focus of each other and slowly and unwittingly grow apart. Suddenly they look at each other over the table after a few years and no longer recognise the person that they are looking at. They have forgotten the tender kisses, the warmth, and the cuddles they use to share. They no longer hear the whisper of love in each other's ears, or feel the warmth of a loving touch. It's not just about sex, but a warm touch of your hand on hers just to say I love you and am here with you and always will be.

9) Conscious Relationships require heaps of self awareness /responsibility. Do you both own what you put into your relationship?

I am aware of my relationship, my feelings for my wife and her feelings for me. Do I own what I put into my relationship? No, I don't own it. I live it with every breath I breathe. I am aware that I am a very lucky man to have such a fantastic wife and lover. Someone who feels a part of my soul and part of my life force.

Steve put's it so well. He lives his relationship! His commitment to Coral and hers to him shines through with every word. They are at the top of each other's list of life values every day.

10) Being authentic or being yourself is critical to leading a happy and fulfilled life. Do you allow each other the freedom to be authentic and how?

Yes! After 30 years of sharing our lives together we can do nothing else. You have to be yourself. It would be impossible to be anything else and expect it to work because some time or another the cracks will show and the walls will come tumbling down. Always be yourself and accept each other for what you both are. We are all individual people. Marriage does not give consent of ownership of each other. We still need respect and freedom as people.

Couldn't have put it better myself!

11) What advice would you give to other people in relationships who are struggling?

I would not try to advise other people unless I knew why they are struggling. There are a million reasons why relationships fail. All I can say is... nothing is too high to climb or too wide to cross if you really sincerely love each other. Be there for each other. Remember the first time you met. You would have moved mountains to do things for each other. So go and find that mountain if you really genuinely love each other and give that mountain a bloody good shove!

So there you have it. Advice from a couple who have been there, seen it and done it and are as happy today, as they were when they met. The secrets?

There are none. Being loving and offering love is what it's all about. What I get from reading this however, as Conscious Union evolves and understands some of the mysteries of people and love, is that a commitment to help each other grow through life and not trying to get your needs met first, is the master key to the creation of a conscious relationship.

Steve and Coral show us that, despite the complicated nature of many people who get stuck in "he did this to me or she said that", showing love consistently no matter what the relationship weather, keeps love alive. It seems so simple but when a relationship exists from the heart, it is just that...simple.

Make love your present this Christmas.

I am a relationship educator and motivational speaker on the subject of love and a qualified Unity Hatha Yoga teacher specialising in partner yoga, teaching couples how to re-connect through the very powerful use of non-verbal dialogue. I am also a natural therapist offering spiritual guidance and healing tools as a way to discovering the true self and healing from the past. I am not a counsellor or psychologist but I would say, an expert in falling in love and getting hurt. I have a 25 year portfolio of experience in love relationships, which I often fondly reflect on and am now the proud owner of. I don't have any major sob stories to tell you, but it is true that I have allowed my heart to take a beating a few times. I wanted to know why I was so strongly attracted to the "wrong" men that were non-committal and dangerous for the female heart. During a trip to India in 2007, someone said to me "You must become the person you want to attract Gina". It was a revelation. I set about self education and reading all the books I could get my hands on about love and why we do the things we do. The result? It is ALL about me and what we give out we get back. Seems so simple but how many of us REALLY know what to do about it?

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It's extremely important to read your ex's emotions before you even try to approach him/her. Often the relationship ends but the partners still have feelings for each other. This usually means that love is still there and the breakup was a big mistake. But you see sometimes love can be one sided too and that's when you need to be careful. This is the reason why you should be completely sure that your ex still has feelings for you. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways to figure out whether your ex still loves you or not...

Your ex is not the same after the breakup- Does it seem like the breakup has totally shattered your ex to pieces and he/she is having a hard time settling down with life again? You see if your ex took it hard then it's more than obvious that it was something he/she wasn't ok with but it happened in the moment or maybe your ex thought a breakup was the best thing to do in the moment but now realizes that it was a big mistake. You see if this is what your ex is going through then he/she still has feelings for you.

He/she constantly tells you that he/she misses you- Does your ex tell you that he/she is missing spending time with you? And at the same time is it a constant thing that they remind you of the past times they spent with you? You see this means that they are really missing your company and they probably want to get back with you.

He/she hasn't moved on yet- Is your ex still single and has shown no signs of moving on what so ever? You see if this is the case then he/she still loves you and is probably waiting for a sign from your end so that they can get back with you.

An absolute must know for you- Do you want your ex back? Now listen carefully. There are a set of astonishingly powerful techniques which will get your ex begging you to date them again. These techniques are so strong that no matter how bad your situation was you are GUARANTEED to get your ex back. So...don't sit back and relax. These are the secrets you simply can not afford to miss at any cost. I strongly urge you to read everything very carefully on the next page. Follow this link- Tell Me The Secrets

A relationship is never over unless it's over in the mind. You might feel that your ex has broken up with you but what if he/she still has strong feelings towards you? One of the most difficult things to do is to figure out what's really going on in your ex's mind. You might have some idea but it's hard to be sure when he/she is sending out mixed signals. There are some effective ways using which you easily find out whether he/she still loves you or not. Read on to discover what these ways are before it's too late...

Does he leave his/her friends just to spend time with you? - If your ex is giving you top priority? Is he/she spending the time he/she should spend with friends around you? The only reason why he/she would still give you top priority is that they still have strong feelings of love towards you and probably want to get back with you.

Does he/she still compliment you a lot? - Does it seem like your ex compliments you almost all the time? Does it seem as if he/she has developed a new sense of attraction towards you which you had never seen before? What happens is that the desire you get you back would almost double if your ex still loves you. They would get strong urges to get back into your life and this is the reason why they would constantly make you feel good about yourself.

He/she tells you that they spent some of the best days of their life with you- Does your ex tell you that the time they spent with you was probably the best time of their life? Do they tell you that they used to be happiest in your company? You see if this is the case then your ex still has strong feelings of love towards you and is probably looking to come back into your life.

An absolute must know for you- Do you want your ex back? Now listen carefully. There are a set of astonishingly powerful techniques which will get your ex begging you to date them again. These techniques are so strong that no matter how bad your situation was you are GUARANTEED to get your ex back. So...don't sit back and relax. These are the secrets you simply can not afford to miss at any cost. I strongly urge you to read everything very carefully on the next page. Follow this link- Tell Me The Secrets

Relationships can be complicated and confusing, but this is even more the case as you get older. Baby boomers seem to have a particularly difficult time with relationships. There are many reasons for this.

Baby boomers have children who are now college aged and parents who are quite elderly. In some cases you may be a boomer who is financially responsible for three generations of people in your home. That is never going to be easy.

If you want to start a new relationship, it may be better to find someone who has a different home situation. You may think that another boomer with a similar situation would be more compatible and understanding of what you are dealing with, but the stress just may be too great. It is important that you are able to fully be present in the new relationship, so look for someone with a very different set of day to day activities. Opposites attract, so this may work well for you.

New relationships will have their ups and downs, so look for ways to connect with your new partner that do not focus on problems you are dealing with on a daily basis. This can be the prefect time to escape your reality and pursue your dreams. You deserve to be in a safe and loving relationship that fulfills you in many ways.

Being a baby boomer is a positive thing, so be thankful for what you have in your life and follow your passion. You never know what may be in store for you in the future.

Remember that the reason to start a new relationship is to find someone you are compatible with. Find out more by visiting http://StartingANewRelationship.com to get started with your dating and planning your new life.

Everyone knows that you have to compromise in any relationship, but how one goes about compromising is the question. Is it simply that you give in because you shy away from conflict or an argument ensued, making it a win-lose situation? Or, do you talk about the situation and come to a decision where both of you get satisfied in some way... making it a win-win? There are many ways we compromise in relationships and compromise doesn't mean that you have to lose every time.

When two people respect each other, they are honoring their rights as human beings. If one usually feels slighted and discontent with the outcome, then someone is taking advantage, while the other is being disrespected and not standing up for themselves. On occasion, there are always going to be two points-of-view in every relationship. How the conflict gets handled is what makes all the difference.

First and foremost, talk... not yell, criticize, or belittle... talk. Each one tells their side of the story, and then, with an open mind, both of you figure out how to make it work.

For instance, one of you enjoys going out with friends, while the other is more of a home-body or has other interests. That's okay! Figure out what works so both of you can have what you want. Make a plan: the one spends time with friends on Fridays, while Saturdays are always date-night. Neither of you get exactly what you want, but you can be happy with the outcome because your mate was willing to compromise. No one had to lose. Other issues could be how one of you spends money, cleans, drives, or even how you argue. Once again, talk and make a plan!

People just feel better when they know that they have been heard and that there is empathy for their position. No one likes to feel that they don't matter. Keep this in mind each and every time you are faced with an issue and you will become a better person, a better mate, and a better friend. As the golden rule tells us, treat others as you want to be treated. That rule has been around for a long, long time...and there's a good reason for it.

Issues are never resolved until both of you make a vow to respect and value the other person...in their time, their values, and in life.

Kimberly Mitchell is the author of Loving with Purpose and writer for such venues as http://LovingwithPurpose.org, Examiner, and other reputable sites offering advice.

As an entrepreneurial relationship contributor and student of life, she believes that good or bad, personal experience is the best teacher. Her history of talents range from producing and presenting personal development, diversity, and business solutions for company leaders to website and graphic design of company material. Her combination of skills provided opportunities to achieve success personally and professionally.

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By following a certain set of things you can easily make your ex to crawl back to you. The mistake most people make after the breakup is that they get too anxious and always end up doing the things they aren't supposed to do at any cost. This is the main reason why you should know these. Read on to discover some of the most effective ways to make your ex to fall in love with you again...

Make your ex miss you- This is one thing most people do not do after the breakup. You see in order to make your ex crawl back to you; you must make your ex think about you again and again. The best way to do this is to cut out on all modes of communication and act as if you don't even know your ex. You see when you cut out all modes of communication suddenly your ex would have an extremely hard time dealing with it and would constantly think about you day and night.

Go back in time- Go back right to the beginning of the relationship and try to become the exact same person your ex fell in love with. Start dressing, talking and acting the way you used to act when your ex fell in love with you. You see often becoming what you used to be is a great way to catch your ex's attention and make him/her fall back in love with you.

Don't show any sense of interest- Go back into the dating world as if the breakup didn't affect you at all. What most people do is they get depressed over the whole situation due to which they are never able to overcome the pain. When you get back into the dating scene and show no sense of interest in your ex he/she would get highly keen about you and would want to get back with you.

An absolute must know for you- Do you want your ex back? Now listen carefully. There are a set of astonishingly powerful techniques which will get your ex begging you to date them again. These techniques are so strong that no matter how bad your situation was you are GUARANTEED to get your ex back. So...don't sit back and relax. These are the secrets you simply can not afford to miss at any cost. I strongly urge you to read everything very carefully on the next page. Follow this link- Tell Me The Secrets

"The Most Powerful Art of Seduction for Women!"

What I am going to reveal about "How to Catch and Keep Your Man", is something you should keep as a trade secret. You don't want your girlfriends to know about this "weapon of mass destruction", do you? The power of this one concept is truly amazing. Combined with the 12 Secrets I recently wrote about in the article "12 Potent Magic Love Secrets a Woman Must Weave to Catch & Keep the Man She Desires!", this is a real gem and yet so simple to implement. Before I explain it to you, what it is not about is actual sex, but it is highly alluring, or cooking or spending needless hours on applying cosmetics and beautiful clothing, to try to catch or keep your man.

It will cost you nothing in time or money. Sounding good? What's more you do not have to speak a single word. It uses less personal energy that any other muscle movement. Yet enter any room and men will fall over themselves. You can do it fully clothed in a ball gown and tiara, a T shirt and jeans or totally naked, (obviously not in a ballroom or other public place). The effect upon a man can be totally overwhelming. He will instantly be captivated. So have I wetted your curiosity?

The significance of this action is extremely potent. I t is what made me fall madly in love, virtually at first sight with my own love. Now the only draw back if you are demure, you need to overcome being shy at first. It will take a little bit of courage and perhaps a bit of practise to get it right. You need to feel confident, so at first it may be little hard, but soon it will become like second nature, particularly when you experience the results.

Okay I have teased you enough... Lights... Drum roll...

Smile! What the... it has taken 342 words to get to this point, you may be asking yourself?

Very simply a smile is the most powerful turn on any woman can give to a man. The secret is to gaze briefly at him, so he knows it is him you are focused on. If it is a total stranger, walk over and introduce yourself. Make some small talk, complimenting his lovely tie, or shirt or whatever, remembering to smile and look at him directly. The other secret is eye contact. This is not quite as easy as it sounds, as many women have been conditioned not to gaze direct into the eyes. Alternatively try not to stare for more than about 10 seconds at a time.

It will be a refreshing shock to most men. Men are not used to a woman taking the initiative. A glowing smile in her eyes reflects true poise and confidence and to see a woman having this and maintaining a degree of eye contact will be completely different to 99% of other women they meet. If there is interest, continue with your conversation and listen to what he has to say. If not well, move on to someone more receptive.

As far as your partner if you are married or in a relationship, the new you will have a very positive influence. It will lighten dark moods and refresh the feeling of love you both share.

A smile will bring light into to any darkened room. It will warm even the coldest of hearts. It is contagious. When combined with other non verbal cues and then by having an interesting conversation, you will leave a lasting impression. The secret is that it will give you poise and empowerment. Try it. The worst that can happen is that you will use less facial muscles than a frown, and you will look 20 times more beautiful by comparison.

So remember to Smile. No matter if you are feeling happy or sad. It will leave people guessing, as to what you have been up to. For more articles and advice like this go to Love101s. If you like them, tell your friends!

Brent James is the Publisher of Love101s.com. Because of some serious life lessons Brent has set up http://www.Love101s.com to help people build healthy loving relationships. Brent James offers free articles to help people rebuild or reconcile with their loves or heal themselves and be able to move on in the next stage of their own personal development.

Relationships are one of the most precious gifts given by God to human beings. Relationships should be handled with love and care. However, due to stressful life and work conditions, people are not able to give the required time to their relationships. This is contributing to the high rates of divorce and separations between couples.

First of all you need to understand that the two people involved in a relationship are different individuals. They have their own thinking, personal views and opinions. Therefore, it is very important to respect the individuality of every person. If you have different views on a particular matter, then you should try to sort out the mutual differences and come to a common conclusion.

Make sure that you keep your personal life and professional life separate. I know that this advice seems better said than done, but you need to follow it at any cost. Often couples tend to take out their professional frustration at each other. Take out time and think yourself: Am I doing the right thing? Is my personal relationship getting affected because of my irrational behavior? Try to think seriously about such things.

Love is beautiful, selfless, giving, caring and enduring. Don't forget the fact that you always wanted to live with this person. Think about the happy moments that you had spent with your beloved. All these things will make you realize that conflicts, arguments and fights will make you loose you beloved.

Relationships are about compromises. We have to compromise and adjust on some aspect or the other. You need to accept both the positive and negative qualities in your partner. Love is not about spending your life with a complete person but sharing the incompleteness. Try to find out perfections in imperfections.

Be patient, understanding and caring. All these qualities will certainly help you to go a long way in your relationships!

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Single and dating can be a great position to be in if you look at it properly. Being single is not a condition to cure, is is an opportunity for sure.

Recreational Dating

Recreational dating is a perfectly acceptable option. To do this with integrity, you need to be clear with yourself and those you date about what you are doing.

The purpose of recreational dating is not to find the love of your life, but to simply have fun and satisfy social needs, as we are social creatures.

The goal of recreational dating is simple - to have fun, meet social needs in the short term and perhaps practice for later relationships.

What recreational dating looks like

Here are a few of the characteristics of recreational dating:


There are now future expectations here.
Dating more than one person at a time is expected and acceptable.
The choice to date recreationally needs to be conscious, intentional and known upfront and accepted by both people in the relationship.
The purpose is to have fun

On the importance of boundaries in recreational dating

One of the most important things to be very clear about while dating recreationally is the issue of boundaries. One way to think of boundaries is the popular saying "Don't go there!"

Important boundaries revolve around depth of commitment and involvement, amount of time, sexual involvement, expectations about the future and the present, and whether the kids will meet and know this person or not.

Often times this is the best way to start if you are coming out of a divorce or painful breakup. Sometimes you need to go slow and check out the water at first.

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Always feeling insecurity over your love relationship? So much so to the extent of even feeling suspicious, doubting your partner's love for you? Well though it might not exactly always be your fault but still I must say, this is the beginning of a very unhealthy relationship. In the long run, it might even lead to an end of the relationship.

I should believe that you are having such thoughts because you really cherish this relationship? But well, perhaps cherishing it just a bit too much? Think about it, how would you feel if things were the other way round? Would you like it if your partner were to doubt your love for them instead? Always calling on you to find out where you are, whom you are with, what you are doing? Believe me, nobody like that. It is only negative and more negative feedbacks that I have got from friends that are having such encounters.

Some, who simply cannot stand it, initiated a break off.

Remember, trust between partners is one of the key criteria to a happy and fulfilling relationship. Without it, an ever-lasting relationship would never be possible.

But first of all, before we can built up this mutual trust, that is one very important thing you must achieve and that is, to trust yourself! If you don't even trust yourself, how can you expect others, your very love to trust you? To have faith in the relationship?

You must believe in yourself, believing that there is this very special you within yourself. A very special you that make you well liked by friends and family, which of course also include your very love, loving this very special and unique you.

Everybody is unique in his or her very own way. That can only be one you and no more else in this world. Your friends and family like you for who you are. Your love, loves you for who you are. So when everyone genuine likes you, how can you yourself, don't like yourself as who you are? Doubting your very own self? I don't suppose you wanna lose your friends and that special someone whom you truly love?

Look into the mirror today and tell yourself, "You are great! I love you!" Yes, when you love yourself, you will naturally have this feel of confidence bringing out that very radiance in you. When you yourself are happy, others will naturally feel happy when being with you.

Remember, love is always a two-way communication. It takes two, a happy you and a happy him or her to complete the equation.

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To get anyone you want, you have to think about one thing: Trust in relationships and how it affects you. Some people think gaining trust in relationships is hard, but it can't be further from the truth. In this article I will answer the most frequently asked questions about how to win back anyone by having trust in relationships.

How can I win anyone back? By taking five simple steps that includes admitting your mistakes, by showing how much you have grown, by being patient, by giving the person you want to attract more space and by showing independence. If you can do these five steps, then you know how to gain trust in relationships and win anyone back.

So how do I apply these five steps? By taking action! You can do these five steps in various ways, but there are a few things to watch out for.

What things do I have to watch out for? There is always an extreme to both ends, you can be too patient for example or give too much space, neither of which is any good.

So what is the best way of going about this? Make a list with these five steps. You start first with admitting mistakes. It's not enough simply to say you have done mistakes though, you need to identify what they are. Write down your main point which in this case is admitting your mistakes. Then write several sub points underneath it. It can be you feel you are too clingy, or maybe you are easily persuaded by the people around you etc. It doesn't matter how big or small the points are, anything and everything is relevant. Getting back trust in relationships is not easy, so be thorough.

Ok, I got my list. What now? Now you look through them and make notes on what you can do to take them off your list. Now for the most important part. Once you have a few suggestions what you do,

TAKE ACTION! This is the most important part of this whole exercise if your goal is to really get back trust in your relationships. If you spend too long time thinking about it and not taking action, you might lose that person you want forever, so take action today. Here's your action plan. Make a list over the 5 points which I mentioned earlier. They are admitting mistakes, show growth, being patient, giving space and being independent.

TAKE ACTION NOW if you want any sort of trust in relationships now and in the future.

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In preparing to write my book on women, self-esteem and relationships, I talked to a lot of people. As I listened to their stories, it became clear that the one thing we all have in common as human beings is our vulnerability to love and matters of the heart.

Whether you're a woman or a man, there will be a person, at some point, who will have the power to bring you to your knees, begging for more sweet torture. Someone who will cause you to feel the deepest joy and the most horrific pain imaginable. A person whom you never thought existed, whom you will love and hate simultaneously. And on the day you realize this has happened to you, you will become a hunter for the answers to life's love puzzle.

More specifically, the journey you embark on will be much like the road everyone else travels. You will feel as though you are in a maze of twists and turns, experiencing high and low altitudes, including times of both mind-numbing boredom and heart pounding surprise.

And as I have found, the reasons for your blind voyage on the Sea of Anything but Tranquility will stem directly from your relationship with your beloved and may include, but are not limited to, the following: insecurity, jealousy, language problems, mood fluctuations, misdiagnosing of problems, infidelity, lack of mechanical skill, and aggravation due to sleep deprivation! In other words, you'll drive each other crazy.

And unless and until you complete the aforesaid puzzle, you may enter into a rather dizzying cycle of repeating the same mistakes with a variety of potential Ms. or Mr. Rights. Instead, wouldn't you rather navigate calmly through these rough waters, steering the boat with your feet, while enjoying the sun and sipping on Champagne on your way back from Pleasure Island?

Okay, please forgive my overuse of imagery, but I am trying to drive home a point. We are all capable of being loved and we are all capable of being hurt. However, by identifying the answers to the most common problems agonized over by both women and men, we may narrow the playing field, nip it in the bud, (here I go again) and shorten the distance to happiness if we indeed really want that for which we so deeply yearn.

Because true love is not like the movies. It's messy and takes hard work and understanding and a sense of humor. It means high heels and passing gas and rug burns and tissues and sports and insufferable relatives and friends... and kindness and compromise and forgiveness. But at the end of the day, isn't that all any heart wants and needs?

Audrey Valeriani is an author, freelance writer, coach, columnist for The Malden Observer (MA), Consultant for eHarmony Advice, creator/host of http://www.bootcampforthebrokenhearted.com and relationship expert for Womensweb.ca. She is also board chair of Self Esteem Boston Educational Institute, Inc. Her book is Boot Camp for the Broken-Hearted: How to Survive (and Be Happy) in the Jungle of Love (New Horizon Press, December 2007). You may contact her at theaccidentalexpert@comcast.net

Just as with "real world" relationships, online relationships need tending and nurturing in order to grow over time. So here are some simple growing tips.

1. Take some time to make time. Do you and your chatting partner get in touch regularly?

Some people are very touchy about this. They think of online chatting the same way our parents did about the telephone.

Online chatting is a bit of a responsibility. While the technology has given us new options, it has also added new obligations. Neglecting your online relationship may be considered real neglect by the other person.

Remember that these are not merely words on a screen, so treat the other person's emotions with respect.

2. On the other hand, if one of you seems too pushy, especially with regards to real-life meeting, it could give off some bad vibes. So don't rush it. Take some time to learn more about the other person and to develop some mutual trust

3. Of course, respect the other person's privacy. Don't share confidences or information or photos that the other person shared with you without his or her permission.

4. Share fun times with the other person -- both online and off-line.

Online, send special greetings from time to time to break up the monotony of mere chatting. Send digital greeting cards, links to funny websites or photos of your cherished pet. Send them links to discussions of interest on your favorite forums or interesting music or video clips.

Offline if you and your fellow chatter have exchanged addresses or post office boxes, you can send them greeting cards or postcards and even small items such as a keychain with the logo of your state bird or sports team.

Above all, be sure to attend to your online relationships regularly. Water them and care for them, and over time they will sprout and grow.

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A lot of people want to win a love back, but all of them are doing it so wrong. Usually, people pursue their exes, and they think, that this will finally lead to getting a love back. This is the biggest mistake ever. If you truly want to know how to achieve this, please read this article carefully and pay maximal attention to every detail.

Firstly, you should never chase your ex partner.

A lot of guys usually pursue their ex girls. They send lots of texts, call them a lot of times, stalk their homes, send flowers and gifts.

See what I mean? This is how you will look like a very desperate person. Women love Alpha males, not desperate or sniveling guys. If you act desperate, your ex will play a lot of head games with you. For instance, she'll ask you to come over, but at the same time, another guy will be there too. Even more, she'll later act like being interested in the other guy instead of you. If you let this happen, more ugly games are to come. This way, you never get your love back. Why let her play games with you, when you can play games with her? If you succeed, she'll come to you crawling.

Are you in a group, and she's there too? Very good. All you need to do is flirt. Not with her, with other girls, especially if one of those girls is her enemy. If you act like an ignorant person, she'll want you back, since she reminds all of your charms, which are now straight into another direction.

Getting a date with one of your ex's close friends is a very good idea. You could also send messages like "since now we're just friends, I wanted to ask you something. Where do you think I should take Mary to dinner after the big game?". This way, your ex will be very jealous. It's an old trick to win a love back. You don't want to get into playing mind games with her? Then, you should simply be happy. Girls always enjoy dating happy guys. Focus on your happiness, and your chances of getting your ex back will grow.

Start working out at the gym and hanging out with buddies. You can also get into a hobby, which you couldn't get into since lack of time. Go and date other girls, even if at first, you just act like happy. After some dates, you will realize that it isn't fake anymore, and you're truly happy.

This is how to stay happy regardless of succeeding in getting your ex back or not. Moving on can provide the same happiness.

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When a relationship ends, it feels like the end of the world. You know, in your heart, that you belong together, and you can't figure out why it had to end. Stop trying to figure it out - chances are, you never will. When you want to know how to win back your true love, start thinking about this...

Relationships fall apart often. There is no 'one' reason for the separation, as there is no 'one' ideal relationship. Everybody is different, thus, every relationship is different.

If you are having a hard time coming to terms with the break up, then think of it like this - everyone needs a break from each other, right? That's why vacations were 'invented'. Sometimes the whole family goes together, but often just one person goes. Just to get away - time to themselves. If you can think of your relationship this way, it will be much easier on you.

In order to win back your true love, you have to be honest - both with yourself and your ex. If your love is indeed true, then the two of you will get back together. You just can't rush things along.

Don't try to get your ex to talk, if they don't want to. Instead, just say 'hi' to them when you see them. When you can say 'hi' to each other without glaring at each other, then you know that the angry and hurt feelings have passed, and now you can start to talk to him or her.

You can now 'up the ante', so to speak. When you say 'hi' the next time, ask them how they are doing. Let your ex know that you still care about them. Let them know that you are still there for them, if they need to talk, or just need a friend.

Talk about things happening around town, or talk about the weather - talk about what you both like, and NEVER try to bring up your past relationship. By talking about things that you both enjoy, you will find that you both want to be in each other's company more and more. Instead of asking your ex on a date, why not just go for a walk in the park, or enjoy a coffee or something together - in the daytime, and in a very public place.

This will keep both of you relaxed - your ex won't think that you are trying to force them into getting back together with you, and you will have a chance to be together. Enjoy every moment that the two of you spend together. The better you both feel with each other, the more you will want to be with each other.

As the saying goes, 'true love prevails'. This couldn't be more true, even though it may not feel like ti right now. When you want to win back your true love, keep this in the back of your mind - it really IS true love - you WILL be together again. Maybe not immediately, but you will. Then you can spend the rest of your lives with each other, and happy together.

If you are looking for a simple yet highly effective way to win back true love, here's a little known secret that has helped thousands of men and women to reunite with the love of their lives.

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Love and chemistry often unfold when two people exhibit balance and compatibility in their interaction styles.

You can help to enhance the seeds of love with these behaviors:

(1) Exhibit loving and caring behaviors as opposed to infatuation.

Nothing kills chemistry faster than a date who is overly clingy, needy or overly expressive about the way she or he feels early in the dating process.

Yes, communicate directly and authentically that you are strongly attracted to your dating partner, but don't go overboard.

A single long stemmed red rose and a hand written note on a first date often is more impressive to women than a man showing up with an armful of roses, candles, and other trinkets. A single aromatherapy candle in her favorite scent might also be appreciated.

Similarly, men appreciate a thoughtful gesture from women. If he drinks tea, perhaps bring him a small gift package of his favorite tea and hand written note, "Relax and enjoy this tea blend." If he works out, a small vial of herbal liniment might hit the spot. Men also enjoy a thoughtful gift of incense or aromatherapy.

(2) Demonstrate that you understand how to set and respect healthy boundaries.

Focus on sharing positive aspects of your experiences as a way of establishing a boundary that sets a limit on drama.

Yes, you can communicate that you have positively overcome challenges of leaving a long term relationship without sharing all the grit and gore.

Avoid dumping negative energy about unresolved feelings, relationships and other life experiences onto the dating table. If it doesn't kill chemistry immediately, the negative energy of your experiences will resound most loudly when your date reflects on the date, and may discourage interest in a second date.

Also, observe and listen to what your date chooses to share. If he's not going into deep details about his personal life or feelings, that could be a cue that you also should be mindful to share more lightly and save deeper details for later dates.

(3) Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!

Communicate your interest clearly and directly with words and actions. Often times, people say they are interested in going out again, but do not follow up with phone call, email or other feedback in a timely way.

Or they go the other direction, and bombard the date with frequent calls soon after leaving the date.

Actions speak volumes and have the power to move a relationship into a stage of inspiring more curiosity and desire to spend time together or to do the opposite. Turn a date off.

Again, boundaries are important. A single well placed call or email that shares feedback about the date, deepens conversations, or asks the person out again with a day or two of meeting is appropriate.

Attempting to call your date on his or her cell within an hour of leaving the date and expecting a call back that same evening is not appropriate.

Similarly, hesitating to communicate with your date shortly after meeting does not create an energy of forward movement, so can stall the relationship or erode chemistry your date might have experienced at the first meeting.

Also, if you connected with your date during your first meeting but experience a change of heart after reflecting more on the experience, communicate that in a sensitive, timely and direct way.

Often, especially with Internet dating, people stop communicating if interest is lost and leave the other person wondering what happened. Energetically this creates a situation of unresolved feelings.

Instead, clearly communicating that interest level has declined, frees both of people to pursue other opportunities for love with clear energy and without questions or lack of resolution about the previous dating experience.

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Once you decide that you will use an online BBW dating site or other dating option, you will be starting a journey that could totally change your understanding of life in the dating lane. Taking this action can cause amazing things to happen to add more enjoyment into your lifestyle.

You are actually about to learn that dating can be fun, as long as you know a few safety secrets. As always, common sense can help, but you must know how to date safely when you're looking for the love of your life in today's world of online dating.

Let's look at a few of the top safety first tips for online dating sites:

1. Be Sure To Make Use Of PC Protection Aids.

The Internet can be a very challenging world when you start your surfing trip. And you will definitely want to check your firewall to be sure it is turned on and functional. Should you not have installed a firewall, this would definitely be something to add to your "must do" list. Hand in hand with a firewall is a reliable anti-virus protection system.

Remember, you can always obtain these tools online by Googling for free firewall and anti-virus tools. The free systems are recommended for home use only. Commercial users would need to purchase a higher level of protection. You would definitely want to download your protection before visiting online dating sites, whether BBW dating or other dating venues.

2. Personal Protection Is Important

The online world is very much like any community with a population that numbers over a million people. And it is not unusual for a dating site to have as many as a half million members, if not more. This means you should be particular with your choice of dating services.

The most reliable way to check on the reputation of your chosen site is to ask your friends or co-workers or even a family member. Get their recommendations and opinions. When you visit a dating site, check their TOS and jot the URL onto an index card along with all pertinent information, including fees, contact information and their address information if provided.

Once you have put together an initial list of 6 to 8 or so dating sites, look over your choices and jot down a comparison of services, requirements, etc. And follow your hunches about those you feel comfortable with as well as those that feel less reliable.

Always remember, there is no reason to rush your judgment. There are literally thousands of online dating sites to choose from so take your time and check out at least a dozen before you make a final decision.

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There are 3 questions you need to know the answer to in order to win anyone back so pay attention. You could be making huge mistakes right now, but if you get these 3 questions answered correctly you can gain trust in relationships and attract anyone.

1. When I want to win back my ex? a) Keep as close to the object of my desire as I possibly can b) Stay away and keep a long distance between us c) Keep close, but not that close The correct answer here is C. If you keep too close, then it will feel like you are smothering that person. Everyone needs room to breathe, so don't cling too much. Trust in relationships are difficult, and even more so if you stay away from whomever you want to attract or get back. If you are far away, who know what you might be doing right? That is exactly what your object of desire is thinking. Why are you so far away? So distant? So keep close, but give room to breathe and to grow.

2. When trying to attract someone patience is? a) A bad thing, because if you only wait around, nothing happens b) A good thing, it builds up trust in relationships c) A thing I don't have to worry about because it's not important Did you peek? The correct answer here is B. If you chose A, I'm sure you had your reasons. It's true that you don't want to wait around for things to happen automatically, but that's not what being patient mean. C is certainly wrong, because patience is incredibly important for a number of reasons. One reason is that everyone values patience. Think about it for second. When you are in the post office and there is a long queue behind you, you rely on them being patient while you are doing what you came there for. What if everyone started yelling at you for taking more than a minute? Same applies in relationships. If you can show patience, the person you try to attract will think you are much more attractive and interesting. Patience is attractive!

3. Why would you want to be independent? a) To show that I can take care of myself b) To play hard to get c) To become interesting to the person I try to attract The right answers here is A simply because you have to be able to be your own person, function with or without your chosen target. This is important. I know that your goal is to get someone interested in you and it sounds great that you can't live without that person, but this is real life, real situations. You will want to show who you are, because you exist with or without someone by your side, show your identity!

Playing hard to get can work sometimes, but that's not why you want to be independent. There is nothing more interesting in an independent person than someone being dependent or something or someone. Just be yourself, show your individuality, because you want the person you are trying to attract or get back want you for who you are, because if not, what's the point? So did you score well on this quiz? Please tell me you did, or you have no chance at attracting anyone. Ok, I am just kidding, this is a learning process like life itself. Not everyone is an expert on day one. Give it a little time and you can get back your ex or whoever you want in life. Trust me, it's not so difficult once you know how.

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Everywhere you turn these days, someone is talking about "The Secret". I knew it was definitely in the mainstream when Saturday Night Live recently did a skit on it! However, the law of attraction is not really a "secret". I've known about it for almost 10 years and have occasionally mentioned it in my writings. When I first found out about it, I felt as if I'd been given the key to life on earth. Since that fateful day, I've manifested everything from a soup spoon to money, trips to Hawaii and my current vehicle.

"The Secret" is not just about manifesting material objects. You can also use it to attract a partner into your life or improve your relationship with a partner you already have. The key to the law of attraction is that you use your feelings more than your thoughts, to create. Feelings are feminine, thoughts are masculine. Females give birth (create), not males.

If you are looking for a partner, make a list of the qualities you would like in that partner. Be very specific, because the universe takes things literally. Be sure to include qualities such as: single (you don't want to manifest someone that has everything you want only to find out they're already attached), heterosexual/homosexual (depending on your orientation), financially stable (you don't want someone that is one step away from living in their car), faithful, lives within (fill in the blank) miles of you and is ready for a committed relationship (they may be perfect, but if they're not ready, it's not going to happen).

The next step is to clear a space for that person in your life. I find the best way to do this is to make sure your bed is free of clutter when you go to sleep at night. As you lay there, imagine that they are lying beside you. How would you feel if the man/woman of your dreams was sleeping next to you? That thought should instantly make you smile. Feel the fulfillment of your desire. Love that person, even though you have no idea who they are.

You should not be thinking of a specific person. You will be interfering with another's free will and it will backfire. I once used this technique on someone I was seeing who did not want to sleep over (hard to believe, I know). My visualization worked, but the reason he was now sleeping over was because he had been evicted and had no place else to go. These were not the circumstances under which I wanted him in my bed. I lost respect for him and eventually relegated him to the couch.

If you're already in a relationship and are unhappy about something your partner does, the last thing you want to do is focus on it. What you focus on expands. By constantly complaining about it to your partner, yourself and anyone that will listen, you continue to give it life. Instead, focus on what you want. Create a scene in your mind of how you want your relationship to look and feel the fulfillment of it.

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Everyone tries their best to get trust in relationships and their ex back at some point in life, but it almost always fails. The reason for that is that fundamental mistakes are made. Whenever you are trying to attract someone you are usually very eager, and soon desperation will set in and mistakes will happen. Not gaining trust in relationships is a very bad mistake to make, but there are more factors to it. I will in this article tell you what mistakes most people make when it comes to winning someone back or attracting someone.

1. They don't admit their mistakes People are stubborn by nature and pride is almost always the winner. That can cause serious problems for any relationship and especially if you want to gain trust in relationships and win someone back or try to attract someone.

2. They are not patient enough When rushing into things, mistakes are being made and it's one of the biggest mistakes you can do. You need to be patient in these situations whether you like it or not. You can't force anyone to come back to you or become interested in you. The only things you can do are having ice in your blood and see the situation with calmness.

3. They are too dependent, too needy If you are too needy to the point where you can hardly take care of yourself, no one will see that as attractive and you will lose whatever trust in relationships you might have. Who can trust you to do anything, when you always have to depend on someone else to do your dirty work?

4. They stagnate, stop growing as individuals Another deal breaker is stagnation. Everyone changes and it's a good thing because if you stay the same, you show no possibility to grow. Everyone is childish sometimes, make mistakes etc. and if you can't "grow up", then there is no point in hooking up with you is there?

5. They are too close for comfort I know you want to get as close as possible to the person you are trying to pursuit, but give that person space. You don't want to smother that person and be too clingy. Give enough room for both of you to breath, don't scare anyone away by being too close. Trust in relationships is a difficult matter and you need to make sure you are not making these dreadful mistakes or you will be back to where you don't want to be in life.

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When it comes to women and relationships, in the beginning, most men think they want to "Have their cake, and eat it too".

No need to explain what I mean by this, because I'm sure you intuitively get what I'm talking about, and you may have experienced this with a man.

But... This is not the case with every single man that a woman meets.

Every once in awhile, a man will meet a woman and know very quickly - without a doubt - that he wants to be with her and only her. I'm talking about the situation where a man knows he wants to be with one woman because it feels right on a deep emotional level.

When this happens, the man will usually be the one to push for a long-term commitment.

And you won't have to do anything but keep being the great partner that you are, and help him with the things he wants to do, to keep you both close and together.

Sometimes though for some strange reason, the guys you don't want seem to always be pursuing you for more.

Maybe this has happened to you before... But you don't exactly know how or why it happened... Or more importantly, how to repeat it with a guy you really want...

Strange how that works, isn't it?

Your goal is getting a guy that you want, to want to be more and more committed with you!

A woman that truly captures a man's heart will:

Make a man feel, through experience, that he's better off being with you rather than being single, spending most of his time with his friends, or "sleeping around".

And...

Show a man, on a physical and emotional level, that he's better off being with you rather than any other woman he could possibly meet.

Probably not your favorite thing to hear, but most men are "designed" by nature to be able to sleep with a lot of women. Men have a "drive" that's part of their long time role in nature.

Of course, this is not the way most women were designed...

In order for you to make a man feel that he is better off being with you rather than living the "single life" and going around and sleeping with a lot of women... Or focusing obsessively on his career. You need to remind him of the benefits that a deep, connected, loving relationship brings... And unlock those hidden feelings inside of him.

Fortunately it's easy to do - especially when he already has feelings of attraction for you. You can turn those feelings of attraction into feelings of intimacy and passion.

So few women know how to help a man get in touch with this side of himself - the part of himself that all men secretly long to share - when you are the one that helps him to do it, he will automatically start experiencing a deep connection with you and want to keep it alive and growing.

This is not something you can do just by talking about it. The key is to actually get him to experience those feelings when he's around you.

The reality here is that a guy will not willfully commit to you unless you flip this "switch". And no amount of pleading, begging, withholding, etc. Will work.

When you do flip this switch and trigger these thoughts... He will be the one asking you to commit... Every time.

If a relationship isn't growing, it's usually dying... And perhaps the most important thing you need to know is to continue to strengthen the bond between you and your man,... Keep that fire of intimacy burning forever.

Every one of us dreams of one day experiencing that "storybook" romance with that special person we are meant to share our lives with...

We think about how wonderful it will feel to finally be with that person... Look into their eyes... And know that we've found the love and connection we've been searching for.

For further, more in depth information and tips on this subject, please visit the link below...

[http://datinghelp101.info/]

I am sure you will agree that the information provided at the link above is very enlightening!

Thanks, Ken

Self-confidence is attractive. Self-doubt is repelling. No one wants to feel trapped in a downward well, which is what happens when we dump our worries into a relationship. Our special other may see our revelations, at first, as courage, as our being honest and trusting them with our inner-most selves. As time goes on, however, our special other will tire and begin to withdraw.

To start with, not being able to help someone we love is very defeating for the helper. No other person, no matter how much they love us, can ever convince us of our own lovability. In this culture we expect a lot of relationships; we even expect that if someone really loves us, that love will somehow break through our habitual ways of thinking about ourselves. We expect love to chase away our insecurities, which, in the beginning, love does in a way. The euphoria of infatuation propels us past many of our usual roadblocks. The problem comes in when infatuation fades and self-doubts re-emerge.

Making matters worse, with our overstated belief in what love can do, when we no longer feel that special sort of "invincible" we felt at first in a relationship, we often blame the other for our changed sense of self. We say, "If you loved me I wouldn't feel this way," or "If you told me more often how much you love me, I wouldn't doubt myself." Sometimes we even set up comparisons to put ourselves down and frustrate our special persons, saying things such as, "You treat you friends better than you do me," or "You don't love me the way you love your family."

These are ways we point out, again, to our special person-that we are not confident in ourselves and we are not taking responsibility for getting confident. Try saying this once in a while: "Sometimes I think about how much I love you and I realize that your love for me is strong. And (wink), that makes sense. I have my downside, but I'm a great package!"

Barbara Rice DeShong, Ph.D.
A Psychologist on the Loose
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What Women Want and How To Give It To Them?

Whether you want to pick up women to share some fun, or you want to find one to share a long term relationship with, knowing what they want and how you can give it to them is key. Perhaps you have been unsuccessful with the ladies so far. That's OK, I'm simply going to ask you to put all that aside for a few minutes and think about how you can dramtically improve your success rate. Let's look at some things that pretty much EVERY woman wants from a man.

Respect - I don't subscribe to the 'treat them mean, keep them clean' mindset. You can be strong and assertive and still show her the respect she deserves. If she is looking for someone to be serious about her and the relationship, don't flirt with other women and be elusive. Give her what she wants.

Protection - This doesn't mean you need to punch out that guy in the bar that tries to hit on her. This means you omit a calm, strong demeanour at all times. Make her feel safe and loved.

Honesty - Don't be like Tiger Woods, sacrifice all other women and make her feel special. If she wants to know where you are going, tell her. Don't make something up because you are going to a strip club with the guys. In fact, you shouldn't be going to strip clubs at all! Unless it's OK with her, of course. Above all, don't give her any reason not to trust you.

Sense of Humor - I'm sure you've heard it said that if you can make a woman laugh, you can get her into bed. It's a silly generalization, but it's partly true. Making a woman laugh will make her feel relaxed in your company, and may even turn her on - which is very good news!

Confidence In The Bedroom - If you know exactly what you want and more to the point exactly what she wants in this area - she's going to love you for it. Confidence is a big turn on too. Maybe you lack confidence - my advice is to work on it before you seal the deal!

No matter what it is you are looking for - a fling or a life partnership, if you have all these areas covered then you should have no trouble with the ladies whatsoever. It doesn't even matter if you aren't particularly good looking, but of course - that is an area you can work on too, if you feel you need to. The very best of luck, I hope these tips have helped you out.

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Want more intimacy with your existing partner?

The spiritual pitbull talks about intimacy. Into Me See. His guess is you mean you want more affection, touch, time and focus from your partner. And in extreme cases, more physical intimacy in the form of sex. What pushes a person away? Lets do a check list.

1/ The first thing that we need to look at is whether you are barking up the wrong tree. Is your partner with you because they love and admire and care for you, or because you are the person they made a commitment to, or because you are the parent of their child?

2/ Are you expecting someone to treat you better than you treat yourself? How do you feel when you are alone? Are you so off purpose in your life, filled with the wrong priorities and therefore totally dependent on your relationship for your happiness. You know that nobody can treat you better than you treat yourself. So, maybe, the gift of lack of intimacy with your lover is showing you that you are off track in your own life.

3/ The secret that draws people close to you, is romance and the key to romance is a single word. Wow. Wow means "I really like you" wow means "I appreciate you" Wow means "you are the best" Wow means "thank you" - so, instead of waiting for Christmas or valentines day, why not make today, the best day.

4/ I know he said 3 but here's the last one. It's sensitive, and politically incorrect but have you looked in the mirror lately, smelt your breath, looked at your undies, held your sox to your nose? When we first meet someone we do allot to make ourselves attractive and therefore seduce them. Then sometimes we get the idea that, once committed to a relationship, we don't need to woo someone. This of course is not the case.

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Professionally today we know more about what makes or breaks marriages than ever before. While some divorce statistics can be misleading, in short roughly about 25% of marriages are fulfilling. Almost everyone in America gets married at some point, with only about 5% remaining single for life.

Unfortunately many problems begin before the marriage starts, often due to people getting married for the wrong reason. As Neil Clark Warren notes, some men have only one rule, that "I am taller than her."

The truth is we need to go much deeper in our search for making the right choice for who we will spend the rest of our life with. A great place to start is by making a list of ten things you can't stand and of ten things you must have. For instance, if being around someone who smokes is a nonnegotiable, then put it on the list of the "can't stands." If honesty is a given then put it on your list of ten "must haves."

This is a simple, yet powerful exercise that can save you a lot of pain and heartache. If someone registers high on your "can't stand" list of qualities then you have a number of objective red flags from which to evaluate your relationship, and vice versa.

The next thing to know is that marriage will not erase baggage from your life. Indeed many people get married hoping that the new relationship will "fix" things, when in reality it makes everything more complicated. As Les Parrot shares, "Get yourself healthy before you get yourself married." We all have baggage, but we need to do the hard work of dealing with it and being honest about it with our partner before we say, "I do."

And lastly, consider where you are by quantifying the love you share with your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse. As Anthony Robbins summarizes, there are four levels of love, and you owe it to yourself and your partner to meet their needs at level three or four to give your relationship the best chance.

Level one love is simply where one person selfishly takes and gives nothing in return. This is the unhealthiest relationship to be a part of and needs immediate correction for it to survive and flourish.

Level two love is give and take, commonly called horse-trading. At this stage partners give if they are given to and no more. Again, this is a very unhealthy and immature place to be. While you can't change your partner, you can determine that you will not live here.

Level three love is where things blossom because at this level each partner gives freely, expecting nothing in return. They give at this level because this is who they are. When two people meet each other's needs at this level their relationship will provide the trust and fulfillment they each desire.

While the above three levels speak about our intimate relationships, level four love is what Jesus talked about when he said to love your enemies. At this level a person loves even those who seek to do them wrong. This love defines how you relate to the entire world. I don't believe that many people are able to remain at this level for very long especially without regular immersion in the grace of God.

Until next time, a great resource for further help is Dr. John Gottman's book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail.

A former pastor, Tobin holds both a B.A. and an M.A. in theology. Having traveled widely in the Marine Corps and as a graduate student, Tobin has spent the past 15 years gathering some of the world's most powerful life-changing truths. He's the author of The Life That Is Really Life: How Biblical Truth Can Transform Your Spiritual, Emotional, Physical and Relational Health, available at Amazon and at http://www.twominutesermon.com.

In the 1800's the immortal Mona Lisa was stolen from its home in a Paris museum. It was not recovered for a number of months. Incredibly more people came to see the empty nail than had come to see the actual painting! There is something about human nature that tends to focus upon the negative. We see it in culture, in churches, in politics, in the media, and sadly in relationships. Focusing upon what is not the way we want it to be is very often a toxic endeavor. The reality is that we all have to fight against confirmation bias; which is simply the process whereby we find evidence to support our beliefs by using selective perception that emphasizes the bad and ignores the good.

It is estimated that only about 25% of couples rate their marriages as truly fulfilling, this out of the 50% that don't end in divorce. I want to take a few moments and share some research that shows what detracts from the health of relationships as well as what increases the joy and passion in the healthiest marriages. In the process we will consider some of the negative things that couples focus upon and how to have a much better approach.

Rob Bell has a great video entitled 'Flame' that is worth checking out. He goes into a fascinating discussion about three of the many words found in scripture that are translated as "love." In short the three terms describe friendship, committed relationships and sex. If any of these is missing from a marriage trouble is not far behind.

For instance, if couples are friends but there is no commitment and no sex, they are really just roommates. If there is commitment but no friendship or sex, they are just holding on for the sake of holding on. (You see these couples everywhere in restaurants staring blankly at their food and unaware of the person sitting next to them.) And lastly, if there is sex but no commitment or no relationship, then you simply have two bodies engaged in a physical and empty act. However, where these three expressions of love thrive, so do marriages.

It is important to have an understanding of one another so these three types of love can prosper from a deep appreciation for the differences and similarities between men and women. Not experiencing your spouse as a friend or lover? Perhaps you are breaking some of the following rules and failing to understand what makes men and women so different.

Consider the seemingly simple act of talking for a moment. Biological studies show that women use approximately 40% more brain connectors than men, which means they are mentally more able to focus upon multiple tasks. One of the most common things wives complain about is that their husbands don't listen to them. I am not trying to let inattentive husbands off the hook by any means, but the reality is that there is a strong chance that biologically your husband doesn't hear you if you are talking while he is deeply engaged in another activity. Be sure you have his attention before relaying important information. For men, it is important to give your wife full attention instead of going into a trance in front of the television or car engine or anything else. In the end some simple changes will save both of you a lot of frustration.

Secondly, women often complain that "he doesn't talk to me." Again, this is not a free pass to insensitive men, but the reality is that men use about 20,000 words per day, whereas women use 40,000. On the flip side of this argument men sometimes complain that their wives always want to talk and they don't get enough quiet time. When both parties can understand there is a physiological difference that is inbuilt, they can make adjustments from compassion and understanding instead of upset.

Speaking of communication, there are patterns of behavior that we understand after decades of relational research. One of my professors Norman Wright notes some of the most bothersome statements that men and women make to one another. Take a moment and consider if you and your spouse use these statements. If you do, then recognize how toxic they really are and instead find different ways of communicating your feelings.

Bothersome Statements Men Make To Women:

1. You don't know what you are talking about.

2. I'll do it later.

3. You don't understand.

4. That makes no sense at all.

5. Where'd you get that idea?

6. Don't be so emotional.

7. It cost too much, didn't you check.

8. You are just like your mother.

Bothersome Statements Women Make To Men:

1. I'll be ready in a minute.

2. Ask for directions.

3. Do you want me to repeat myself?

4. If you would have listened the first time.

5. Turn off the TV when I am talking to you.

6. You have a one track mind.

7. Don't you care?

8. The kids learned that from you.

9. You weren't like that before we got married.

Again, the important thing is not to point out your partners failings in these areas as much as it is to together examine where both parties can do things differently in the marriage. This is not the time for pride or one-upmanship, but for compassionately considering where your have been and how you have gotten to where you are, for better or worse. Indeed, some people are so ego driven they believe, "If I were any better I'd be twins." But in marriage we need to lay down our weapons and see how things can become more fulfilling and loving.

So take a few moments and examine the statements above and how often you share these same thoughts, be it vocally or silently to yourself. Also consider the biological differences between men and women and how you can bridge this gap in a way that is win-win for you and your spouse.

Lastly, here are three great questions to ask one another that will help uncover deeper feelings between the two of you. Along with examining the above list, ask your spouse the following questions when the time is appropriate and you both agree that the moment is right for this conversation.

Question one is simply, 'what am I doing that I need to stop doing?' Both husband and wife need to receive the answer with an open mind, and the giver of the answer needs to deliver their message with grace and love.

Secondly, ask 'what am I not doing that you want me to start doing?' Find creative ways to meet the needs that are relayed in this simple but insightful dialogue.

And lastly, ask 'what am I doing that you want me to keep doing?' Here is where it is important to focus upon all the good that is happening in your relationship. Again, so many focus upon the negative, but we need to closely manage our toxic thoughts.

A powerful exercise for those who are in a very difficult time in their marriage is to take the next 72 hours and have each partner write down everything good they notice their spouses doing. Each person keeps this list private until the time period has expired, and then they share their lists with one another. This exercise will train your mind to see the bigger picture. And by write down everything I mean everything. If your spouse brushes their teeth, gets to work on time, takes out the trash, gives a compliment, smells good, anything and everything you can find no matter how seemingly insignificant needs to be listed.

It is far easier to notice the negatives; we have unfortunately learned this as a defense mechanism after years of watching everyone else around us do the same thing. But doing what everyone else is doing is perhaps one of the biggest mistakes that people make.

Want to have a thriving relationship? Then consider your friendship with your spouse, your commitment level and your sex life. Take the principles given here and apply them to your relationship, even if you are the only one that participates at first. I can guarantee you will see results and experience a much healthier marriage.

A former pastor, Tobin holds both a B.A. and an M.A. in theology. Having traveled widely in the Marine Corps and as a graduate student, Tobin has spent the past 15 years gathering some of the world's most powerful life-changing truths. He's the author of The Life That Is Really Life: How Biblical Truth Can Transform Your Spiritual, Emotional, Physical and Relational Health, available at twominutesermon.com