If a man believes in "love at first sight", he sees the perfect physical appearance of a woman that he perceives to be attractive. If a woman believes in "love at first sight", she may have found an incredibly built guy who matches her ideal physical makeup. This notion dilutes our perspective and makes us believe in love at first sight cliché.

We all like to think that we like others for their inside attributes but the truth is we are attracted by their physical appearance. Once you find out more about them, things will change. Eventually your feelings will subside. Physical attraction will slowly become average thought to you. When your relationship drops down to reality, you will go through the hardship that follows.

You will only be holding on to your ideals on who you think that person should be. We want a person to be the ideal match to what we think they should be. Most often, we find out they are not actually what we idealized and then are a little disappointed. Unfortunately, this misperception starts with physical attraction. A real relationship is going to take a lot more than physical attraction.

Don't be drawn in by physical appearance. Become attracted by their uniqueness. To find someone with special quality will be hard. But once you find that right person, you will be set for life. Having this special person in a dating relationship will make you become special. You will start to express and show your partner how special you are. This kind of chemistry will far exceed than any kind of physical relationship.

You won't even think about "love at first sight" because it will seem too much of a cliché to you. You do understand reality a little more. You understand there are different relationships with different types of people giving different experiences. You will start to distinguish and be aware of "lust at first sight" with people you see.

If you can develop yourself to look as good as you can without totally relying on it, you can naturally accelerate the process of attracting others. Your focus should really be on developing yourself and your confidence. Find your special quality. Embrace your quality. Appeal your uniqueness to others and show them that this how attractive you are. It's how you relate and don't pay too much attention on physical attribute that will make you succeed.

There are countless beautiful looking men and women. But looking closely, there are few of them left to be great catches. Make them want you because you are true to yourself at all times. You are interesting, funny, and a great person. As long as you keep in perspective, the advantage is in your hands.

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Some things should never allow be to see the light of day. Folklore has it that you freely put the truth but left in dating relationships, some things are better unsaid. My relationship advice according to should learn women to keep some problems in the dark. Many guys, which seriously asks you with you of course about the number of men, what dating you. This, which he did not, that means the guy an innocent tour you had with the Park. He wants to know the number of the guys, who with intimate. Kiss many frogs, which look like Princes in the lives of people. You say on the truth not particularly exceeds five. The number of men or women, that, which you with slept, should firmly in the closet be locked if you have any hope for a successful relationship.

I thought to see advice spoil it relationships with women, because I'm tired, their once-successful relationships. You may love your body, not that much, but not the body form of uncertainty open. Your husband looks beautiful and attractive. So on, let him. When you start highlighting the body parts you don't like, he will see how they start. If your thighs are too fat do something to improve it, but don't whine about it. If you don't like yourself, the man can believe in you and hate what he previously liked. This places a burden on dating relationships. John left his former girlfriend, because she kept complaining that her bum was so great. He finally saw it was extra normally big and he left.

When it comes, we act sometimes so stupid the Affairs of the heart. It is hard to deny love, but what you do as a woman your man do not, that you can't live without him show. They can close friends say it to your natural sense in you for pumping, but not they say your friend. This dating advice relationship is important for women who are regularly mistreated by their partners. If your husband does something wrong made and do apologize not care, let go through it. There are some women that are used as door mats, but they act like nothing happened, because they cannot bear to do the man in her life without. Successful relationships are born out of love and respect.

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Have you already decided that it'll be impossible for you to get a guy to fall in love with you? Are you giving up on men, love and relationship because you just can't handle the stress of it all anymore? On the other hand, are you tired of being alone and you'd just like to find that nice guy to settle down with? Sure, it can be frustrating. Men are hard to understand. Our own hearts are easy to break. And the whole relationship thing is just so complicated it's hard to know where to start. Well, you can start here.

Try to take a look at the male/female relationship from his point of view. Many men equate women and relationship with loss of freedom and a dull life. Not surprisingly when you look at some of the more tedious couples around you. Women are notorious for cutting a man down and preventing him from going out and having any fun at all.

So to counter that fear, you have to come off as being fun to be around and easy going. Don't enter the dating arena with the sole purpose of landing yourself a husband. It will be written all over your face and just about every guy will be scared off by it. Take each date as its own entity and just have fun. Don't look to the future and wonder what will happen. Enjoy your evening with him and see what you take away from it.

Did you have fun? Did he crack you up? Was he witty and amusing? And did he seem impressed and intrigued by you? Was he interested in what you had to say? All of these things can indicate the amount of fun he had with you. The more fun he had, the more chances you have that he'll call you again.

You don't want your date to see you as being desperate or rushed, just fun. This will open up a whole new path to dating and soon just having fun will evolve into becoming closer, good friends, intimate and finally a romantic relationship.

Throughout, don't let yourself fall into the trap of having sex with him too soon. I know it can be tempting to have him that close to you and you may feel that going to bed with him is going to seal the deal, but it rarely works that way. Be patient and realize that, if he's the least bit interested in you, he'll be more than willing to wait. Making a man fall in love with you is really a matter of showing him the wonderful woman you are and getting him to appreciate you.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

How do you get a guy to fall in love with you? Have you met the guy of your dreams and want to take that next step into a loving, caring relationship? Are you ready for a commitment? There are some important things you need to know. While it might seem like guys don't want love, or don't fall as much as girls, the truth is that guys like being in love just as much. While it is difficult to get guys on the same page, this article will offer some useful tips on how to make it happen and how to get a guy to fall in love with you.

Flirt.

To start a relationship with a guy you need to get his attention. Flirting is just how you can do that. Take a chance because being shy won't get his attention and even if he likes you back it will never happen if you don't try. So share some cookies, talk to him, and get a conversation started. Vibes, those things guys look to read to know when a girl likes him, come from a woman making an obvious effort to talk with him and get to know him. If nothing else, try making eye contact and smiling when you see him.

Friendship.

Even if you are going on dates, looking at the relationship as building a friendship will help your chances of getting a deeper, loving connection going. This, in turn, will help him fall in love with you. You don't need to get too close and just become just a friend but you do need to get to know each other freely. Keep it light, show interest, and be honest with him and yourself and get him to start falling for you!

Forgo the sex.

Try to keep it hands off for a while. If you want a one night stand then by all means go physical on the first date. The truth is however those emotional connections, so important to love, form better early on in the relationship and physical stuff can only get in the way of it growing.

Follow these tips and remember to be honest with yourself. You don't want to end up in a relationship with someone you don't recognize as time moves on, and neither does he. Do this and you can really make the right guy fall in love with you!

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Want to make him feel you truly love him? Is he a little unreceptive to your little shows of affection? Do you wish he'd appreciate your efforts a bit more? Be careful -- it's easy to make one of the biggest mistakes in love and relationships when you try to make him feel you truly love him.

When you love a man, it's natural to want to make the relationship work. And it's natural to do whatever it takes to strengthen the bond you share. Unfortunately, it's very possible to do too much, and you risk making the relationship turn away from the direction you want it to take.

For instance, you may show your affection by sending him text messages every day, or maybe by trying to get into romantic conversations to make him feel you truly love him. That's all well and goo d -- unless you start doing it too much.

Look at it this way -- in relationships, we women often impose a deadline on ourselves. We may, for example, set a six-month deadline -- so if a man has been dating you for six months, it should be natural for him to start thinking of the long-term already. He should be more receptive to talking about settling down and raising a family.

Unfortunately, that's not the case -- men don't put a "timeline" in their relationships. They don't even have a sense of time. When men commit, they commit because they want to -- and not because he's "ready" or because you've been dating "long enough."

The problem with trying to make him feel you truly love him is that it may put some unnecessary pressure on him. He may feel you're pushing the issue, especially when he feels deep inside that he isn't ready. So just focus on making the relationship enjoyable for the two of you -- without fear and uncertainty.

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The times have changed for women in the world today. We want to "have it all"-a career, loving husband and family. Not only that but we are searching for a deeper love and connection in our relationships. It is no longer ok to settle for a marriage of convenience or a "comfortable roommmates" scenario. We want love, romance and a best friend.

Remember the revolutionary dating book "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. The book was a huge breakthrough for professional woman, who wanted the big career, the success and financial freedom that came along with it AND also in their heart still yearned for their prince Charming to hold the door open for us, take out the trash and pick up the tab at dinner. The Rules liberated professional women giving us not only permission, but guidelines, to have the kind of relationship we all yearned for.

Some examples of The Rules are: "don't meet him halfway or go dutch on a date", "don't call him and rarely return his calls" and "don't expect a man to change or try to change him". The Rules state that when you follow the Rules you learn how to be a "creature unlike any other" - confident, happy radiant."

What did following these Rules accomplish? What do they really mean? What is it that the Rules are really trying to teach. Well lets start with what we know does not work. Being desperate, clingy, or needy does not work. Revolving your whole life around a man does not work, especially a man you have been out with one or two times.

What also does not work is to pursue a relationship with a man like he is a goal. A client of mine, Amber, is a driven, hardworking graduate student. She is dating a man she really likes, but sometimes feels exhausted by the relationship because she has to work so hard. She says he is "passive" and the relationship would never "go anywhere" if she did not take the initiative.

It is not fun being the girl who sits by the phone waiting for the guy who may or may not be into you to call. And how many of you have spent HOURS on the phone with your girlfriends analyzing any scrap of attention he may sent your way. Or justifying his behavior when he doesn't call or only can find time to see you on Thursday after work and before football with his buddies. Translation- he's just not that into you. Sound familiar? Most women at some point in their lives have been there, done that, agonizing over a guy who does not like you as much as you like him.

"It's very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less -- even a vague pathetic facsimile of less -- than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don't settle for less. These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to."

Greg Behrendt

So what is the solution to this problem? Can you return his phone call the next day and still have a loving caring relationship? The answer is YES! The solution is standards. Set standards for yourself and how you expect to be treated in a relationship. And then do not settle for anything less. Do not allow yourself to be treated as anything less than as the beautiful, interesting, intelligent woman that you are.

Here are some tips for setting your standards:

Don't manipulate, nag or beg to try to get him to do what you want him to do. Ask directly for what you want and if he is not willing to work with you- let him go.

Take your time getting to know him, you will never lose anything worth having by taking it slow.

Don't try to turn him into someone you want to be with, What you see is what you get, people grow but they don't change.

Get a life! Find your own fulfillment, cultivate your interests, and develop the talents God gave you.

Know your mandatory requirements for a partner and do NOT settle for less.

Commit to your own growth No Matter What. You will be gorgeous radiant and sexy AND able to return phone calls!

Trust yourself not to allow someone to disrespect you because you respect yourself!

Don't be afraid to move on if it is not working! If you are living a vital and fulfilling life it is only a matter of time before you meet Mr. Right, not Mr. Alright!

So how do independent women fall into the trap of neediness, making excuses, justifying poor behavior and settling for so much less than our ideal partner? Because despite all the financial and professional success women still long for love and connection.

Always know that no matter what Your True Love IS coming. So enjoy your life in the meantime. Embrace your hobbies and interests, commit to your personal growth. When you set your standards high you have a much better chance of getting what you want than if you settle for less and hope it will work or get better in time.

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How do you make a guy fall in love? Does it just happen, or are three things that you can do to trigger these feelings within a man? How does a relationship progress from casual dating to love and ultimately to commitment? If you are wondering what you can do to improve the chances that your guy will fall in love, keep reading for common sense advice about relationships.

Human beings are rarely satisfied. It is human nature to continually work toward and strive for greater levels of success and satisfaction. This is an admirable quality and one that men find very attractive in women. There is one area however, where this drive for taking things to the next level can get a little tricky. Men and women often have divergent goals when it comes to love and relationships. Women typically get excited about the prospects for the future while men seem to waiver and hesitate about moving forward to something more serious.

What should you do if you are in a relationship with a great guy who doesn't seem ready for love or commitment?

Be honest

Women are often warned about not talking to men about things like commitment and marriage. While it is wise to be selective about when and how you bring up these topics, it is equally important that you are honest with yourself and with a man about your expectations for the future. It is a mistake to keep this information to yourself and then get upset when things don't seem to be headed in the direction you had imagined.

One of the best no pressure ways to find out how a man feels about love and commitment early on is to ask questions. Find out what his family was like growing up. Has a negative experience colored his view of commitment and marriage? If so, that could be a warning sign that there will be some challenges to overcome. Find out what his future goals are. Does he even mention settling down at some point?

When it's your turn to share your thoughts about the future, be honest. Saying something like "my parents had a great relationship and I want something similar for my own life" is much different than "I can't wait to get married and have a family." The first statement tells a man that you are thinking about the future and your ultimate goal is commitment with the right person. The second statement says that you are too eager and anxious. With the right approach, you can make a guy fall in love.

Present a continuous challenge

Relationships grow when there is sufficient challenge to propel them forward. Both positive and negative challenges are beneficial to growing relationships. Negative challenges demonstrate your ability to cope and work as a team. Positive challenges demonstrate your ability as a couple to achieve great results together.
Most people don't go looking for negative challenges. They just happen and you have to be prepared when they do. But you can create positive challenges within a relationship.

Encouraging him to pursue his ambitions is one way to challenge your man, but challenges don't always have to be serious. Men love physical activity so why not use that to your advantage? Playful competitions can keep him interested and have him wondering what's next.

Keep the passion alive

You want to keep reminding a man about why he was attracted to you in the first place. Don't assume that because you snagged him, you can settle into neutral. In fact, this is exactly what men fear will happen and is part of their resistance to love and commitment.

If you want to make a guy fall in love, you must first be honest. Many men will tell you that it's hard to find a women who can be honest about her feelings without getting too emotional. Also remember that men need almost constant stimulation and challenges to feel happy. And finally, don't allow the passion to die.
Demonstrate to your guy that you know how to keep things exciting and you should have no problem getting the relationship to the next level.

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Is there really a difference between men and women really when it comes to dating, relationships and communicating? Do you sometimes feel that your man has a different time schedule to you when it comes to your relationship? Are you wondering if he feels the same way that you do? You might be starting to tire of him and just when you are thinking of moving on he shows interest in taking it to the next level. It can take a lot effort to make your man fall in love with you, but once he does, he's usually there to stay.

Often women find that their relationship has it's up and downs before a man fall in love and commits. It can be confusing for men as in the past men and women had set roles in a relationship. Women were more passive and men were the pursuers, they felt they had more control over things. Men enjoy pursuing a woman. Women used to go along with men courting them and it was easy to know how to act. Men knew what was expected of them so they felt more confident about relationships.

In this day and age dating and relationships is a lot more confusing. Many more women feel confident to ask a guy out and initiate a relationship. Men feel as if they are being pursued instead of being the pursuer and they are unsure how to act in this role. Instead of feeling confident, he feels baffled!

A lot of women have discovered that it is easier to make your man fall in love with you with some of those old rules. By understanding how your man thinks you can make it easier for him to feel confident and more attracted to you. Here are some strategies that work:

Men enjoy looking at attractive women so always be well groomed and looking your best.

Be friendly and a little flirtatious so he knows you are interested but let him pursue you, not the other way around!

Keep things fun and happy in the early stages of your relationship. Don't talk about heavy topics or push for more intimacy. If you come on to strong it will scare him off.

Don't express your love for him or get overly emotional too early. Men need time to develop emotional closeness. Be honest, but don't overwhelm him with too much talk about your emotions.

Keep your time together light-hearted so he has time to feel comfortable around you. If her feels pressured to talk about 'heavy' topics too early he may feel that the relationship is moving too quickly and get cold feet.

The best way to make you man fall in love with you is to be someone that he enjoys spending time with. Just relax, have fun and don't put him under pressure. Then he is much more likely to want to be with you and deepen the relationship as time goes on.

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Every now and then, every dating relationship will go through arguments which eventually create an emotional roller coaster. As much as it can be unpleasant, it is healthy and can help create lasting relationship. Most of these emotions are not negative in nature. With little attention, we can control our emotions very well. We are capable of being free from negative feelings and thoughts. We just happen to overuse it quite often.

Jealousy is a primary aspect of our emotion. Jealousy stems from the lack of trust or lack of assurance from one's partner. It can also come from an inferior complex. Learn to act by reason and not by emotion. Jealousy is a product of an emotional pattern that only exists in your head. Don't be intimidated by anyone that you feel is better than you.

When you first met, it may be the similarities you found with each other fascinating. As you knew each other more and more, it's your differences that potentially strengthened your relationship. That's why it is important that you value the differences that make you special as a couple. Learning to compromise and meet halfway every time a conflict occurs will bring stability to your love and hate dating relationship. Recognize each other's weaknesses and learn to appreciate what the other has to offer.

Pride often tells us not to give up and admit defeat in times of disagreements. Pride often lead us to think elsewhere. Pride makes us ask the wrong questions and inevitably get the wrong answers. It really doesn't matter who is right or wrong. It's never good to emphasize too much if it means you could hurt your partner. You don't have to be right. If you truly need to speak out, do it thoughtfully.

When you're deep in a dating relationship, money and power might come into play. If one is earning more than the other that does not mean the other is contributing less in other areas of the relationship. Work out a way to manage your dating relationship equally. This will give both of you control.

Arguments by nature are difficult and hurtful. They are a normal aspect of any relationship. Arguments that seems like a love and hate relationship adds flavor to our daily lives. But like any other flavor, too much or too little will make it tasteless. It will potentially wreck a strong relationship.

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All females need sexual tension from a prospective or existing partner to consider having or continuing to have, a physical relationship with them. Lose this from the start and you will become mayor of the friend zone.

Definition of sexual tension - Cocky and funny. A loud mouth, walking the thin line of winding her up without overly offending her. Posing as a challenge and not doing everything she says without a bit of give and take.

No sexual tension = a dead relationship.

There are 4 general types of relationship.

THE FRIEND ZONE RELATIONSHIP

Familiarity without sexual tension. (Usually the male not opening his mouth to challenge a girl he REALLY fancies.) This leads to complacency in that the female becomes numb to the presence of the male (because he doesn't stimulate her emotionally through lack of communication) and associates him as a social partner only. This leads to, the friend zone. The male is permanently seen as a non sexual friend only. Once a female has made up her mind that you are a friend and she says the F word. It is the kiss of death for any attraction you have for her. You will never have a physical relationship with her from this point onward and will spend the rest of your time with her, hearing how she got off with this great guy at the weekend. All the while you're dying inside. When you eventually tell her how you truly feel and she rejects you. She will sit and wonder why you are not answering the phone any more as you were a great listener to her problems.

PURLEY PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

Purely physical attraction. After a while a lack of sexual variety leads to complacency in both parties. Boredom / lack of sexual tension makes both parties become fed up with each other quickly. This leads to a breakup of the relationship and both parties go their separate ways. This type of relationship can be prolonged if both parties are willing to explore their sexual fantasies and keep variety in the bedroom. The long term feasibility of such a relationship is still in question.

PHYSICAL ATTRACTION & SEXUAL TENSION

Physical attraction + sexual tension equals love at first site. Female tries to change male to her ideal image of a man. The male resists, lack of conformity equals continued sexual tension which equals a long lasting relationship viewed as love in a love hate relationship.

PHYSICAL ATTRACTION & SEXUAL TENSION VERSION 2

Physical attraction + sexual tension equals love at first site. Female tries to change male to her ideal image of a man. The male conforms and no longer poses a challenge. Female gets bored as there's no sexual tension any more. Relationship starts to slip. Male thinks everything is ok as he is doing everything she wants but in reality, she has lost all interest in him. It is at this point that she will either stay with him in a purely partnership arrangement or leave him as soon as a better male comes along that stimulates her emotionally.

THE OVER POSSESSIVE PARTNER

The above scenarios do not take into account over possessive partners that bully or smother their partners to the point that they leave or attack them. This is known in some circles as 'a bunny boiler'. So named after the film fatal attraction where an obsessed Glenn Close cooks the family's pet rabbit in a revenge attack for Michael Douglas spurning her advances after a brief sexual relationship.

Usually over possessiveness stems from the insecurities or lack of trust in one partner. (They may have been hurt in the past and are determined to not let it happen again, to the point where it becomes an obsession.) Or they're a total psycho, run for it!

Relationship number 4 is the most common. In general you will see it while at the shopping center. The husband pushes the trolley and every time the wife speaks, it's either yes dear or no dear. The husband has conformed to do what the female requires in order to have a quiet life. The female thinks she is superior, in control and has mastered the art of man handling.

In reality she is destroying the mans animal attraction to her. She is slowly numbing him into an affair with someone else. Little does she know it but as he no longer poses a challenge to her, she is slowly becoming numb to him. As his animal instinct is tamed and he finds her attractive less and less, they will suddenly, one day, find themselves in a loveless marriage.

They will at this point be co-existing in a purely partnership based relationship for the sake of survival or because of children. This has lead to relationships breaking up after 30 years of marriage and both partners wonder why their marriage is so lifeless.

It has been described as 'the spark fizzling out'. In reality it is the lack of sexual tension or sexual variety. Remember, a female thinks with her emotions and a man thinks with his.....err....physical attraction mechanism.

If a male no longer stimulates her emotionally, she will seek it elsewhere. Equally if a female is no longer sexually attractive to a man, he too will look elsewhere.

Don't get me wrong ladies, some things can't be reversed, like aging and the passage of time, but there are ways to grow old and still be sexy to a male partner. A boring sex life is a recipe for disaster and being sexy is more than a lack of wrinkles. If in doubt, it's time to start experimenting in the bedroom to see what pushes his and your buttons. Explore each others sexual fantasies and do things you only dream about at night while your partner is asleep. You'll be surprised how quickly your relationship bounces back as a result.

If you have any sense you will heed my warning weather you are male or female, married or just starting a relationship. Try to keep the sexual tension alive between the two of you. If not, you will be on the next train to dumpsville wondering why he or she slept with someone else.

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Are you still looking for someone to hook up with? Are you tired of going out on dates with all the wrong men? Do you want to consider some serious online dating? Dating can be time-consuming especially if you dated the wrong guy. Also, the hope of finally meeting the person meant for you is a failure. Nowadays, people are getting hooked to dating online. They base their choice on the profile of a person. If you want, you can join in the bandwagon as well. Here are some serious online dating tips that could help you snag a guy that you want.

1. Check and choose the type of service that best suits you.

There are different kinds of dating services available online. There's the General Online Dating Services, Relationship Services, Social Network Services, Niche Dating Services and Merging Online Dating Services. Be sure to choose a dating service that can match your objectives. General Online Dating Services gives you the opportunity to view all the people who posted a profile and are interested in dating. Relationship Services provides compatibility testing. It's a more serious approach on relationships and marriage. The Social Network Services on the other hand are free sites that increase your number of friends. This will help you find someone to date along the way. Niche Dating are sites that bring people together, allow them to date. They match people up with specific common desire and interest. Lastly, the Merging Online Dating Services allows you to meet people online and offline.

2. Observe the safety tips when it comes to this type of dating.

The problem on online dating is that it's not that safe. You can fall prey to sexual predators and abusers. Here's what you should do. From the moment you sign up for any dating service to the time you meet the person, do not give out too much personal information. You should be discreet and don't trust the person right away. Always meet the guy in a public place. You'll know when it's not safe when your gut instincts tell you so.

3. Come up with a pleasing profile.

The only thing that people focus on when it comes to dating online is the person's profile. You have to make a winning profile. Make sure you come up with a profile that is interesting. You have to sell yourself to others by showing in your profile that you're fun and happy. Make your profile really interesting.

4. Choose a good-looking picture.

Don't judge a book by its cover as what people usually say. But in reality, people judge things base on their looks. That is similar to this type of dating. No one would want to date you if your picture isn't attractive. Make sure you look good, dress nice and clean. Show your best smile.

5. Show your true self.

This is plain and simple. Don't lie to other people. Don't post a picture that has been taken two or three years ago. Don't lie about your age, job and interests in life. Don't pretend to be someone you are not. Don't worry because there will be a person who will love you for who you are.

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Have you ever heard about numerology? Has it ever crossed your mind that there is such a thing as love compatibility by birthdate? Did you ever think that numerology is true? Nowadays, many women consult love compatibility by birthdate to determine if they are really compatible with their partners. Love compatibility by birthdate can help couples determine character traits that can calculate appropriate love matches.

When it comes to love and relationships women are more cautious than men. Women are more on the emotional side. This is the reason why girls love to consult compatibility tests. They are the ones who usually consult free online match making sites. Moreover they love to test their men if they really are meant to be. One of the most popular ways to calculate compatibility is through love compatibility by birtdate.

So how does this work?

In numerology, your birth date consists of the day, month and year of birth. The three needs to be added until you get to a single digit number. This is done for the combination of the birth dates of a couple. Take for example the birth dates February 16, 1979 and October 7, 1978. To get the result you simply follow the illustration below:

02/16/1979 = 2/1+6=7/1+9+7+9=26

2/7/2+6=8

2+7+8 = 17

1+7 = 8

Then do the same for the partner's birth date.

07/10/1978 = 7/1+0 = 1/1+9+7+8 = 25

7/1/2+5=7

7+1+7 = 15

1+5 = 6

After reducing both birth dates to a single digit you should add both results until you get to a single digit again.

8 + 6 = 14

1 + 4 = 5

Now the love compatibility birthdate number is 5.

Each number has a corresponding meaning and all will be explained briefly below.

1 = it means the relationship is male dominated. It means the relationship may not be balanced. However, if both partner enjoyed their company and willing to work things out everything will be alright.

2 = this is the number of the submissive woman. The couples falling under this number is ruled by the heart. This type of relationship is full of harmony, communication and balance.

3 = This number symbolizes fun and excitement. However, it is also a sign that one partner is immature.

4 = The number four is the opposite of number 2. This number is ruled by the head therefore it is all about practicality and wisdom. This number symbolizes steadiness.

5 = Couples falling under this number are adaptable to change. When things get difficult adjustments will not be difficult.

6 = Ruled by the goddess of love, the number six exhibits unconditional love and empathy. However, it has also a tendency to be a possessive relationship.

7 = People in this number have very high expectations. There may be a lot of disappointments if partners do not learn how to appreciate the reality.

8 = Numerologists say that this number may have its pitfalls in the world of love. However, it can also be great when it comes to commitment and responsibility. This number is perfect for business relationships.

9 = This is the number of tolerance with couples that can be selfless. However, there are tendencies when emotions can erupt when pushed too much.

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Over the years I have had many clients frustrated in dating, especially the dreaded first date. I'm always slightly surprised by this as I loved dating when I was single, especially blind dates. I even met my husband on a blind date, his first and last. I loved the possibilities, the adventure and, of course, I have a wicked sense of humor, so any so-called-bad date was always worth a good story.

Dating doesn't have to be an exercise in torture. Ok, sure for some of us, talking to a box of rocks is easy, but for others, a different scenario. For some, the thought of engaging in intimate conversation with a virtual stranger can induce stuttering and immediate brain cramping. I have come to believe in five basic rules for the first date; they have served me and clients very well...

1. Decide what you are looking for before you go out on the date. Are you looking for a boyfriend/husband or a fling? Be honest with yourself. If you really want a boyfriend/husband, decide before you put your big toe out the door what you want in a mate (i.e. humor, kindness, job security, honesty...) Write down 5-10 things that are important to you. This gives you a framework and clarity to make empowered decisions.

2. Be willing to cut bait early. Relax, this is not the last person on earth. There will be other dates if this one does not work out. Don't settle for someone who just isn't right.

3. Believe what he says. If he says he doesn't want a serious relationship, he's not a good at relationships or anything of the like, guess what? He's telling you the truth. Red flags should be signaling you away from this disaster in waiting. Run far away from this person. No second date.

4. Like him as is. Don't think, "Well, if he changed his job, or if this or that was different, I would like him." Again, I go back to, do not settle. There are so many people looking for love -- strive for an abundant life with your most perfect love. You deserve your best life.

5. I call this rule is the two nevers. Never kiss on the first date and never call him after the first date. He calls you. Reality is, we all like a chase. If he doesn't call, well, it just means he didn't call. Don't take it personally. Sometimes the sparks just aren't there or maybe he has an ex that really isn't out of the picture or maybe the timing is off. It doesn't matter. I promise that you do not want to start your relationship feeling like your chasing him. I had a girlfriend that would chase guy after guy away because she had to call him right away. She came off desperate - not attractive. She did not have a lot of second dates.

It is my belief the single most attractive quality a person can have is self-worth. If you believe yourself worthy of a beautiful life, a beautiful love, you will not settle for "less-than." By knowing your worth and having clarity about what you want, you become a more confident person. Confidence is incredibly sexy and not surprisingly, the more confident you become, the more people will be calling you for dates!

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Are you ready for a long-term relationship? Do you have someone in mind who would love to love? Are you ready for the work of a partnership with someone? If you are ready for a loving, stable relationship, but not quite sure how it happens, read you make next!

After you play the dating game for a while, you can, see that it mostly smoke and mirrors. There is not much depth dating. It is oriented, surface anything much but sometimes you more long. Sometimes, you want a relationship, the stable, loving and comfortable.

To be comfortable, you will learn to have themselves to be men. It is to do a hard thing because if you were to have many guys dating, you probably have the need someone to not be, you really. Women in the dating game caught up and forget that in order for a relationship to stable and supportive, you must be itself really.

Really, the only way is to your true self to create a sustainable relationship with someone. If you are the person to whom you want to be found, then you not choose to play the game. Take walls this game, and let your true that even shine through. He will notice the difference and discover that you not can be while he dwelt, you something, that he only have to have.

It is hard to break out of the role have created yourself, so try to give themselves some time to figure everything out. Let him know that you are ready for something new and different, but not overwhelm him with your desire for long-term durability. He is worried, if you are too zealous.

Explore yourself and your personality in order to really know who you are and what you have to enter. As soon as the man sees the amount of work you are willing, in the relationship with himself, he will automatically recognize that you are worth to invest time and energy in.

It is a hard path, but one that can result in kindness and a great relationship. Know who you are before you try to fall in love with a man in you. When he sees that they are honest and authentic and sincere he will be sure to want with you.

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Some of the synonyms of friendship are companionship, comradeship, familiarity, closeness, alliance. Think about when your husband or wife is your ally - that is your supporter, helper. What a world of sweet relationship is potentially present in your marriage? Actually, I always have this feeling that marriage relationships should not be considered unless friendship is established.

Friendship is the first of the fundamental elements of the foundation for joyful relationships. Though friendships seem to have dwindled in the estimation of people today, it still remains an important key to the joys of human existence. If this is so important to have friendships with people around you, how about the person that may live with you throughout your mortal life and possibly in eternity as we know today to be possible for those who live according certain laws of God.

The time to establish friendship in the relationship chain is during dating. This is appropriate given that the basic qualities of friendship - supporter, helper - contain elements of sacrifice which the tender periods of courtship and marriage would not be able to bear. The statement, a friend in need is a friend indeed, connotes sacrifice and duty. This skill need to be learned long before the feeling of love come into the relationship. Love is a higher form of sacrifice. If one did not learn the elementary sacrifice, it would be difficult for him or her to learn the higher law.

Dating partners, therefore, should focus their immediate attention to becoming friends with each other at this time. If the opportunity to become friends during dating is not utilized, there would be vacuums in the relationship that would rob it of the ability to resist the challenges of the marriage institution.

Many relationship experts have advocated the idea of building friendship at the onset of the dating relationship as a crucial step to a joyful marriage relationship. This is wisdom as experience has shown to all who would care to search carefully.

In order to have true friendship with a dating partner, one must be completely honest, truthful and trustworthy. Friends contribute to each other's lives without expecting a reward.

Friendship does not mean that you should compromise to the wrong doings of each other. In fact, it is important that friends should be prepared to tell each other the truth even when it does not appear to be sweet to the ear, without fear of losing out on the friendship. When a partner does evil acts either to the other partner or to other people, friendship should end because it is not right to condone evil no matter who it is coming from - friend or foe.

One of the major challenges dating partners have in building friendship is premarital sex. The moment dating partners start having sex, they are not able to think creatively. Friendship requires creativity to sustain its growth.

Seek opportunities to help and serve one another in ways appropriate to the dating stage of your relationship. As you serve one another during dating, you deepen your friendship and gain the requisite skill for service in a marriage relationship.

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What are your priorities, if you are dating? You are looking for love, or are you fixing to superficial beauty. Beauty is only skin deep and faded over the years. If you're making your decisions based on only a person sees, you will come to recognize in time that the things you are overlooked those senses to your love life your partner of character and personality apply.

Why say we not on the outside lock? As you can see, only covers the surface of the person you meet. If you want to find true love, you need deeper and go to far below the surface dig. Love and relationships are about to know, closely is it about someone, to get familiar with the person, the they, their dreams, goals, ambitions, views and beliefs. Focus of surface details ensures that you will have a flat dalliance, to meet your needs in any way, will not.

Provides only for a short time. If you fall you will look for a person, based on fall out of love with them when they lose these sees your appeal and taste of a person are based on looks alone isn't good for your relationship, which promises because your feelings are conditional searches factor alone.

You can see surface details and your partner could do the same. Is what you both will have together, a flat interaction, which is more or less disperse when interest in the other sees you lose. True love and honor based on mutual sympathy, respect, understanding and mature commitment, not flat attractions.

Her success as a couple would be best slim and a very high possibility is that you can quickly fall out of love and looking for a new dalliance soon enough. Love happens on the basis of phenomena is called pseudo-love. That kind of love provides no support whatsoever, thus your relationship give no chance at all in maturity grow. Emotional attachment is done not in a shallow relationship either, so depriving emotional intimacy. If you do, get married to and have children, your children will learn that should be only beautiful people loved and special treats

It takes a really hard work, to a real relationship definitely works, but the effort is worthwhile. The reward for a sincere love engagement are great. Check out an online matchmaking site. A matchmaking service client applications thoroughly screens and you will know soon if you have to do with a date, which is shallow. You are protected in a secure environment and allows to meet and get to know the person who was already checked by the service. This is pretty hard to get in the today's online dating.

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The American philosopher John Dewey stated: "A question well-phrased provides half the answer" .

As you embark on the Self-Awareness process and begin to observe yourself, asking and answering questions will help you focus and pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, attitude, reactions and behaviors and enable you to understand how they drive you to sabotage your relationships. It is quite likely that you haven't asked yourself these questions before.

To help you with the process, I list here sample-questions you can begin asking yourself. Add as many others as you go along. The more honest you are in answering them, the more insights you will gain and the ways in which you harm your relationships.

1. Questions about yourself

* How do I usually behave when having a relationship:

- Am I authentic?

- Am I open and honest with my partner(s), or closed and cautious, afraid of being hurt?

- Am I true to myself and behave in ways that feel right to me? Or do I tend to sacrifice myself "for the sake of the relationship"?

* Do I tend to get into relationships due to the fear of being alone? If so, does it drive me to enter a relationship with whoever asks me out?

* Do I feel there is something I would like to change about myself, but are afraid to, or don't know how? If so, what is this "something"?

* When problems and conflicts arise in my relationships, how do I cope with them:

- Am I aggressive, feeling that I am always "right"?

- Am I submissive?

- Am I too compromising?

* What, in my opinion, drives me to behave the way I do?

* Do I see myself as a person who "gives space" to my partner? If so, do I know whether it comes out of appreciation of his/her own space, out of an attitude regarding life and relationships, or out of my fear of commitment? (Each one of these might influence differently the ways in which you behave with your partner or with being single).

* Do I perceive myself as a person that never says NO? If so, is it because I am "accommodating", or because my need for love drives me to avoid being rejected in all costs? Or -

* Do I perceive myself as a person who always negate what my partner wants and says? If so, what drives me to doing so?

* Do I see myself as a person who has "much love" to offer and therefore desire (and demands!) much closeness? Or could it be that my behavior is driven by dependency and neediness?

* Do I see myself as a person who "loves so much" and therefore tend to do everything for my partner? Or could it be that my behavior is driven by the fear of being rejected and abandoned?

* Could it be that "loving so much" actually originates from me being a controlling person who need to decide about and be involved with everything related to my partner?

* Do I see myself as a person who perceive my way of "doing things" as always the right way?

* And other questions related to your own issues that you can you come up with.

As you see, there could be different reasons for the way you behave. When you become aware of your behaviors and identify where they originate from you can better understand how you sabotage your relationships.

2. Questions about your relationship failures

* Do you think that the way you handle yourself in relationships is fine, and not having a satisfying relationship until now results from not having met "the right person" yet?

* Is it possible that you have been hurt in past relationships and are now so cautious that you hinder your own attempts at developing a new bond?

* Would you be willing to consider the possibility that something in you - your thoughts, attitudes, feelings, reactions and behaviors - drive you to fail time and again (due to fears, needs, unfinished businesses and other factors that control you)?

* And other questions like these related to your own issues and relationship history.

3. Questions related to your thoughts, feelings, attitude, reactions and behaviors

* How do you usually feel about what your partner says or does (for example: always agree, always disagree, and so on)?

* Which thoughts usually go through your mind while you interact with your partner (such as: "Am I smart enough?"; "Do I make myself clear?"; "Does my partner appreciate me?" and so on).

* Can you tell what your reactions and behaviors say about what kind of a person you are (for example: aggressive; submissive; a victim; shy; introvert; extrovert; honest; stingy; secure; independent; dependent; cautious; open; and so on)?

* What is your attitude when approaching dating, relationships and the other sex (for example: positive; negative; suspicion; mistrust; hope; and so on)?

* Are you often satisfied with the ways in which you handle yourself with dates and relationships? If yes, how do you explain your failures?

* If you are not satisfied with the ways in which you handle yourself with dates and relationships:

- How do you explain that?

- How would you like to handle yourself?

- What do you think stands in your way from adapting these ways?

4. Questions about factors that control you

If you have answered the previous 3 sets of questions you may be ready for this fourth set. It calls for a higher level of Self-Awareness, and deals with uttermost important issues which cause you too sabotage your relationships.

* Can you identify any fears which drive your thoughts, feelings, attitude, reactions and behaviors (such as: the fear of being alone; the fear of commitment; the fear of being hurt; the fear of abandonment)? Which of these fears discouraged you from having a relationship, or controlled you when having one? Have any of these driven you to jump from one relationship to another?

* Can you identify any needs which exert power over your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, reactions and behaviors (such as: the need for independence, the need to receive constant love and approval, the need for control)?

* Can you identify any expectations and fantasies you hold on to about partners and relationships? Thinking these over, do you think they are realistic? Have they ever harmed your relationships when not being fulfilled, by causing frictions, arguments, disappointments?

* Can you identify the attitude you usually have about partners and relationships (and towards the other sex in general)? Can you realize how it is being expressed in your reactions and behaviors?

* Can you identify which thoughts, feelings, attitude, reactions and behaviors repeat themselves throughout all your interactions?

* Can you identify any other issues which are unique to you which affect your thoughts, feelings, attitude, reactions and behaviors and hurt you constantly?

Asking questions: Summary

Questions well-phrased enable you to observe yourself carefully and come up with answers which will give you insights into the ways in which you sabotage your relationships. By doing so you develop your Self-Awareness and become able to:

* See, understand and acknowledge your automatic patterns of thinking, feeling, reacting and behaving;

* See, understand and acknowledge the factors you haven't been aware of until now which control you and drive you to hang-on to these automatic patterns (such as fears and needs, unrealistic expectations and fantasies, messages you internalized);

* Realize the ways in which you have harmed your relationships.

* De-activate the power these factors have exerted over you;

* Become able to consciously choose to think, feel, react and behave otherwise; and

* Become empowered to develop and maintain a successful intimate relationship.

The questions listed above are intended to give you a "head start" as you begin to develop your Self-Awareness. The more you'll come up with questions related to your own relationships' issues and experiences, the more helpful insights you will gain about the ways in which you have harmed your relationships until now.

Doron Gil, Ph.D., is an expert on Self-Awareness and Relationships with a 30 year experience as a university teacher, workshop leader, counsellor and consultant. He is the author of more than 100 articles on the subject and of: "The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship". Available as eBook and paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Self-Awareness-Guide-Successful-Intimate-Relationship/dp/143925141X/

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You are over 35 years old and looking for a life partner? Do you want an affair instead of a serious relationship?

Most come to the coaching search customers to a Permament, stable relationship, but confused, they are preserved on the contradictory messages from dating partner.

There are issues that can ask and tell you characters that you can search, if a man with love is serious.

What are the questions you should ask?

They have very early in the dating relationship the person regarding what they want and how they imagine their lives in the future. Most people will tell you the truth. If someone says that they are not ready for a serious relationship, they believe. If they have several marriages or partners tell you, questions, what personal growth places that have sought to understand their behavior and patterns.

What happens if you meet someone on the Internet?

Many people have met each other on the Internet. However need without knowing the story of someone, and not knowing their friends and family, they really are a certain length of time before you. You take a year to see them with their close well-known and family, and go away by the holidays get a clear picture, who they are. Along with this information, ask the person about their dating and relationship history.

Are what some of the alert signs that someone has committed no intention ever?

Unfounded jealousy is often a sign that he is doing something, that he is not proud of. Other characters are, if he does not, want to meet his friends and his family; If he wants to; speak not about his work He is always late; next week will do, and if he you no commitment what you can give.

Nobody is perfect, nor is anyone expected. But how responding your potential interest love to your questions; What he does with his life; and what lives, speak according to the commitment issue.

It is important that you understand and believe that you deserve a commitment, if you want one. Women who are in committed relationships are in them because they insisted. Were not prepared, along, drift, less than what she wanted and have to accept.

Meeting which takes the love of your life. Do not give up. He is out there. And...You have to pay not for an affair.

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Many singles continue to slam into the wall of rejection early in the dating process simply because they haven't learned what not to say! Unfortunately, those racing for the door rarely tell the person they're fleeing from what went wrong. If you're having a hard time getting past initial phone calls, don't get follow up dates or ever sense the brakes slamming on in the middle of an otherwise promising conversation, never utter the following until you give the relationship time to form:

10. "I used to have a drinking problem."

Red flags go the moment these words leave your mouth! It's ok to be honest and tell the truth. Furthermore, you should never lie, but telling someone you're interested in dating such information too early in the process is a guaranteed relationship stopper! The same goes for drug, gambling, eating disorder or pornography problems! Do what it takes to overcome the problem, then take your time and let your love interest get to know you before you lay your past on them!

9. "I've been married multiple times!"

It happens, but don't advertise it! If you must utter these words, follow them up with what you've learned, how you've changed and what you're going to do differently to ensure it doesn't happen again! A good person won't hold your past against you, but smart people know the past is a good indicator of what they can expect in the future!

8. "I lost my license!"

It's almost impossible to come up with a good explanation as to why you can't drive. If you've lost your license, take a break from dating, do the mental health work you've been avoiding and earn your license back before you re-enter the dating pool! Having a parent, friend or child drive you to a date is a surefire way to ensure you won't get a second chance with Mr. or Ms. Right!

7. "I have bad health!"

Many do, but not what you want to tell someone until you have some time together under your belt. Take care of yourself, do what the doctor says and give someone a chance to know you better before you tell them all the men in your family have died before age 40!

6. "I declared bankruptcy!"

Not uncommon in today's economy, but not helpful to disclose early on! Get your financial house in order, live within your means and wait until you get to know someone, before you disclose your past.

5. "You're the answer to my prayers about my finances, children or any other problem!"

People want partners, not projects. If your life is chaotic and needs rescuing, you shouldn't be dating! See a financial planner, learn how to parent more effectively save and become the type of person someone else would be smart to date!

4. "My ex is a psycho path!"

Many are, but not helpful to know early on! If you have a troubled relationship with your ex learn how to set boundaries, resolve conflict and let go of residual bitterness. When you do reach an appropriate point to share such distressing information, let your date know how you're going to protect them from being at another's whim and fancy.

3. "My kids are a mess, in jail or a residential treatment facility."

Never smart to lay out all your troubles and concerns early in a relationship. Make sure you've learned how to set boundaries, overcome any co-dependence issue and hold your children accountable for their behavior before you bring someone else into your life. At the same time, you are not your child! Each of us is ultimately responsible for the choices we make.

2. "I don't have a job!"

If you don't have a job, don't date! Relationships are expensive, and you want to be a partner, not a project. Do whatever it takes to find a new job and get your financial house in order before you even think about asking someone out!

1. My ex gave me a STD!

Oh my, just how is your date supposed to respond to that lovely tidbit of information? While living with a STD shouldn't prevent you from dating, telling someone too soon is a great way to sabotage any promising relationship. Let them get to see what a wonderful person you are before you drop this information on them. While wise singles wait until they're married, never, never, never engage in any sexual activity without their full knowledge of your STD. You know what it's like to contract an incurable disease; don't inflict that on another without their informed consent and willingness to risk getting what you have because they loved you enough to marry you.

Once you quit leading off with your worse suit, you'll be amazed at how much more willing your dates will be to get to know you better! Most importantly become the type of person someone else would be wise to marry!

Dr. Sherene McHenry runs a company called Fully Engaged and works with individuals and organizations who want their members to engage in self care, develop healthy relationships and live life to the fullest. To see a short video clip of Sherene speaking go to http://youtube.com/user/mchenryintl. Visit fullyengaged.us to sign up for Sherene's free newsletter.