What's in it for me? Why relationships are not what they should be

Have you ever noticed that if someone is not currently in a relationship is they want to be in one? Have you ever wondered why? The answer like simple, common responses we are money, sex, society are want of. But if looking for so many people for the same thing, why is it that over 89 million people today according to the Census 2000 single-U.S.?

I'm here to you to realize that often people in relationships for the wrong reasons, and a relationship on emotions might not be the best based, what. Also I would like to make aware people, not always first check that you you can not the opportunities that you lack it at the end. The time will these possibilities at the end missed and opportunities slimmer grow "perfect" who every day.

If you in a relationship we often look for something in our lives to meet; Who contribute to that life better for us. Some believe that they need to be successful in one. Some have a false sense of love and think that someone give it would make happier, and others simply do not want to end lonely for the rest of their lives.

In most cases allow indicated not by the divorce statistics, you all heard have these reasons alone usually lasting relations. Relationships must be made of a close friendship between two people, and requires time, trust, love and effective communication together to survive. Without these things, and probably more the most relationships fail.

Often relationships fail also stupid reasons. One of the reasons mentioned Dr. Laura Schlessinger in her book "10 stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships" as "Consuming all instead of your time and energy with work, hobbies, errands and tasks focus on your relationship." This means that the person who you say that "I do" always your number one priority in the relationship also choose.

Now should you marry why someone who never want to spend with or that you use only for other purposes? And why would you continue a relationship that will clearly go to work? Joshua Harris say in the book "I kissed dating goodbye", that "often from intimacy for intimacy-two people always close to each other without the real intention make a encourages long-term commitment."

So many times in our lives we humans see in relationships for the wrong reasons. In high school, it was common to see just about everyone with someone at any given time. And in view of the fact that that take most of these relationships tend to be only a week or so, if they were lucky, I seriously doubt that love had actually to do something. The reasons for these relationships tend to be more than often not a possibility to view status or make us better feel. In school these reasons typically grow to a sex partner or noise to find "real" before graduating.

If you are a Christian you may have heard wishes the verse from Psalm, which declared "you will enjoy the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart,". This is basically to say that things on your own not always the best option and, if you you according to God's plan life; He will give you perfect companion with the when the time is right. This does not mean that you cannot your options simply not expect today to explore that this person will be always right. Let not from emotions dictate of course on a dating relationship instead, which know what you right is described in which Joshua Harris as "sentimental gush."

Finally, I would like to talk about some of the missing or incorrect ways a lot people have. Often I hear from girls who always tend to complain about the wrong men; as they Guys who mistreat them they can disrespect, or use it for personal satisfaction. Barbara de Angelis explains in her book "The 100 most frequently asked questions about love, sex and relationships"-"As human beings, we tend in the direction of the renowned us looking to emotional situations, which we similar to that experienced during childhood, can cause regardless of whether these experiences were positive or negative." I tell you, you have to not attracting the wrong kind of person to be stuck because there are a lot of other people, that would perfectly be easy finding the time for you, when you took.

Perhaps you have one of those people, who are quiet and like antisocial or independent or she maybe are not the most attractive person. You ever thought that maybe this person in the past or simply a how is a diamond in the rough and only maybe a hard time, the openness towards people, perhaps due to problems shy personality. You think, perhaps, what you just there waiting for someone to sit to talk to come with them? They can take a little to open, but once they do I doubt that it would be a waste of time.

Everyone wants a kind of attention and would love if someone only cared enough to show interest. Sometimes it would just a little to bring a person take true potential. Tests do not rule out or afraid to speak and in the allgemeinen-- know new people are, even if only for friendships, because we meet each person in our lives, we have taken it for a reason and a lot from someone is often preserved, also if you do not end up out of them. Use these possibilities and who knows one of the people you'll meet, friend or friend who you are looking for, perhaps.

Finally each Miss someone who wants to spend their lives with you not the chances for you and not rush into something solely on the basis of your emotions. If you are in a relationship, work to make last if you think there is hope and not let them based on stupid stuff at the end. If they have to stop, I hope they end up in a way more elegant than a sudden change of status on Facebook as mentioned in the New York Times article of September 2006: "it's over?" "Sign up and see." And finally, do not forget, just because a person may not have worked out, does not mean, that there is no ton of other people waiting, get to know you, which could be even better than the last.

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