Love & Relationships - Three Signs it's Caput & How Unconditional Love Contrasts With Modern Marriag

A compatible relationship is what most people strive
for, and it's always nice to hear about a happy couple
in a fulfilling relationship.

People wanting to get married would be smart to
seriously consider the following questions:
What do you seek through marriage? A ceremony to
declare your love and a chance to get together with
family and loved ones? Romantic partnership
permanence? Do you hope it will add something to
your connection that you feel is absent at this time?

Marriage was originally intended for practical and
economic reasons. People could not survive unless
they pooled their skills and resources. Due in part by
romantic fantasy perpetrated by movies and fairy
tales, marriage today includes unrealistic expectations
such as being someone's "everything" for life.
Surprisingly, even with the high divorce rates, this
tradition is still a popular choice.

Some say it's because you need marriage for kids, or
that marriage is about commitment. But you can be
responsible parents or commit to each other without a
marriage license.

Those who oppose marriage contend that legally
binding agreements, in an attempt to cement
relationships, primarily reflect fear and a lack of
trust and are more about money than love.

There is no level of compatibility "good enough" for
marriage, because two individuals who are very
compatible now may not be in ten years. Furthermore,
marriage is just a legal construct that has nothing to do
with unconditional love, which is what many claim to
marry for. By unconditional love, we're referring to a
lack of conditions such as "If you do this for me, I'll do
that for you."

Ideally, marriage would be completely about
unconditional love. It wouldn't be like modern
marriage is today.

There would be no unhappiness about a partner not
doing what they are expected to do financially, there
would be no disputes about having to spend time with
the partner's friends and family, and there would be a
lack of expectations in the bedroom, just to name a few.

As we have constantly found in our work, most
relationships have time limits, as do friendships and
business associations. Sound unromantic? Truth isn't
always romantic, but embracing it will save you a lot
of heartache. You don't have to physically leave a
relationship for it to be over, as many married couples
will tell you if they are brutally honest. Additionally,
children know when their parents are unhappy and
all too often the parents end up setting a bad example
relating to complacency and deceit.

How can you tell if a romantic connection has seen
better days? A few examples include the following: all
attempts at spicing up the bond fall flat; one or both
partners become increasingly interested dating other
people; sex becomes routine and boring or nonexistent;
the sexual attraction fades significantly or disappears; one
or both feel as if they have learned as much as they were
supposed to learn; and it simply doesn't feel right to stay
together.

Life-long, satisfying monogamy is desired by many,
but is it natural or realistic? Some couples completely
lose interest in sex with each other and settle for
companionship or are willing to make great sacrifices
and be unhappy in order to avoid ending their relationship,
but more and more couples are accepting that most
relationships are not meant to last forever.

In our view, love relationships serve primarily as
grounds for shared spiritual lessons and goals, rather
than the currently accepted, outdated, fear-based
sociological standard as outlined above. Many norms
in society will be seen as absurd by future generations,
and we expect that traditional marriage will be one of
them.

An aside, for those who desire to deepen their
understanding of their partner (especially before
getting married), compatibility analyses involving
psychic insight, comprehensive astrology, numerology,
and graphology outlining key challenges and rewards is
a great way to open the door to more love.

We recommend to those considering marriage to
communicate with their partner about commitment,
and discuss feelings about money, children, relatives,
friends, etc. But don't expect or even hope that the
love would be permanent if you got married, since no
couple is compatible enough to meet and exceed the
present day expectations of marriage.

"Getting married to make a relationship permanent is
like buying a summer home to make summer last forever."

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Scott Petullo and Stephen Petullo are identical twins and have been exploring metaphysics since the early 1980?s. They are experts in the fields of prediction, personal fate, love life, and past life regression, and are natural psychics and mediums. Get their free report: 13 Spiritual and New Age Myths and 11 Questions to Ask before hiring Psychic. http://www.mystictwins.com http://www.holisticmakeover.com