What Makes a Guy Fall in Love? What to Do to Capture His Heart

Do you wonder if there are specific things that cause a man to fall in love beside chemistry? Are you involved in a relationship that seems stuck? Do you understand the stages of love? Can you identify where you are in the process? The answers to these questions can help you determine if you are on the right track to making a guy fall in love.

What are the stages of love?

Physical Attraction

Most of us understand that love typically begins with physical attraction. And unfortunately, this is where many of us get stuck when seeking out new relationships. First, there are the women who rely solely on their sex appeal. These women usually have no problem attracting the attention of men, but they often find themselves in multiple relationships within short periods of time that never really go anywhere.

Second, there are the women at the other end of the spectrum who don't believe they have any sex appeal at all. These women often have trouble getting past a casual conversation with a man because they typically take themselves too seriously and come across as insecure.

Like most things in life, falling somewhere in the middle of the two extremes is ideal. We all know plenty of average people who are involved in amazing, loving, committed relationships. How do they do it? They are realistic about the importance of physical attraction. They know it's important, but they also know that it won't sustain a relationship for the long term. They managed to move from lust through the other stages of love. If you can get past lust, you are well on your way to making a guy fall in love.

Interest

Interest follows right on the heels of physical attraction. This is where your personality and intrigue come into play. During this phase a man cannot stop wondering about you, and he will do everything he can to get to know you better. In this stage it is important to give him the information he desires, but only a little bit at a time and in a very playful way. This is not the time to share things like family drama, medical issues, emotional hang ups, past hurts, and negative attitudes.

During the interest phase, many women make the mistake of sharing too much too soon. They also tend to start thinking about the future after only a few dates. Resist doing either one. There is a lot you don't know about this guy. During the interest phase, you should ask a lot of questions to find out how a man thinks about life and love. You are evaluating your potential compatibility. You need to ask questions in such a way that they come across as just being curious rather than feeling like an interrogation. Tell him you read an interesting book about relationships, point out a fact or snippet from the book, and ask him what he thinks about it. He won't feel pressured if you are speaking in generalities.

Bonding

Bonding is when two people begin to establish a relationship of trust and intimacy. You begin sharing more of your personality, goals, values, and ambitions. The mistake women most often make here is getting impatient and pushing for some type of commitment. It is important to know that when men get to this stage, they really start to pay attention to the details. They are emotionally invested, but not to the degree you may think. This is also when women tend to get clingy. If they sense any hesitancy on the man's part, they will begin to worry that something is wrong and start trying to force a man in the direction they want things to go. Instead, focus on ways to enhance your life and improve yourself. Once you are at this stage, let your guy set the pace for moving the relationship to a committed level.

There is no set time-frame for going from physical attraction to making a guy fall in love. It will be different in every situation. The first two stages usually move along at a faster pace than the third one does.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.