Dating relationship - the game of the spirit of verbal abuse

"Can not do you anything right" you have heard that in one form or another more than once to your other significant. If this is out one day, make a simple household chore or a conversation serious non you always seem to be on the defensive with the other person. This type of constant bombing can put your nerves on board and take you to begin to doubt yourself.

And your other significant knows. They have seen your strengths and your weaknesses and kept mental notes, so they know exactly what buttons to push and when.

And then they take it to a new level. They berate you not only when they are with friends and families, but from time to time they you humiliate in public. You do that or else so now you have ruined the opportunity. When you arrive at the House they really unload on you.

Only now there should be a righteous indignation on your part. Instead internalize you all that they said. They may have reason, and that is all your fault. You had to deal with the situation. Did you do it good or not enough or too much? Once your significant other sees that the doubt is in the air then they intensify the attack. The next step is to transform these doubts in the cold hard reality. Verbal abuse is now fast and furious. Everything what is happening is anything trivial or insubstantial is a pretext to make you feel worse than what you do and also set in stone which now squarely is the blame on the shoulders.

But there is something more sinister afoot. Essentially, they have virtually taken control of the relationship of the intention.

However, it is important to keep in mind that probably none of this was possible if it did not receive your cooperation. If a dating relationship will grow that it is essential that both parties love or at least respect each other. Verbal abuse is or. Emotional, physical and mental control disguised take care. It benefits nobody except the person who is practicing but it also requires a certain acceptance of the receiving party.

The problem is in the short and long term, it is totally corrosive to a relationship for dating. They miss their target the joy of having someone who cares for them also helps to improve the relationship. They also side losing the uniqueness it's you. You need no one else can bring to the table. In seeking to exercise total control over you, they are gasoline, try and do you exactly what they want you to be. This is blatant disrespect.

Unfortunately, it becomes a vicious circle. You can never be 100% what they want you to be. They know and deeply you know therefore they heap more abuse on you with the clear understanding and that it will always be this way.

Some people like to argue. It is a part of who they are, but when they become verbally violent in meeting a relationship then you need to take a stand. They your bottom and work on their behaviour, or they will have to find someone else to try to control.

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