I think texting rocks! It means that no matter what you are doing you can be in touch with and connected to your loved ones. Texting has absolutely deepened our dating and love relationships. Now your "A" level friends, family and lovers can be in a constant secret dialogue with you. Of course texting can be overdone and work in reverse: how many times have you seen others texting away and ignoring you or others they are with? As a psychologist I can tell you that there are certain times when that is a recipe for disaster. So you want to take advantage of texting, but in a clever, balanced way.

My dating and love advice is to use it to deepen your relationships but not at others' expense. With that in mind, here are seven Do's and Don'ts to follow when you are dating or in a relationship:

1. Little steamy or romantic texts can go a long way in a serious love relationship. Remember that less is more because you can pick up where the message ends and begin fantasizing about the other person!

2. Breaking up with someone by text is a definite no-no. Ending a love relationship in this way or by email are signs of cowardice and disrespect both of yourself and the other person. If at all possible deliver the bad news in person or at the very least in a phone conversation.

3. Revealing something embarrassing in writing is never a good idea. The message can be shown to others.

4. Using text to avoid speaking on the phone is sometimes the shy way out and doing so habitually will never get you over your fears. You have to come face-to-face and have straight truthful talk in order to have a whole relationship with another person.

5. Texting during a date is simply bad manners and rude.

6. Mass texting to ask people out on a date is a desperate act and will backfire later if people compare notes.

7. In the beginning phase of a dating relationship you are testing the waters so don't overtext. As the relationship becomes more serious, you can increase the frequency in order to plan things together, get emotional support or advice, and ultimately to send love messages.

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DATIV QUESTION:

I waited several years after my wife died, before I started, a large woman who divorced a jerky guy is dating. For 2 months, we have dinner together had a couple three times per week. We stay in touch every day via SMS, "Miss You", or "Have fun today."

Yesterday I held my cell while I spent the day and had dinner with clients. Later I saw that they sent me had dozens of texts wondering what was wrong and say, what do not like them, are ignored.

I called immediately to say that nothing was wrong and I was to ignore them, not her. She said if I really minded it, I held her lyrics tormenting her with my silence would have answered. She said she wasn't sure that she wanted to see me again because of this.

I am confused. I enjoyed it, until it out about a day away freaked by SMS. Can I send her texts, so you can find out what happened?

REPLY DATIV BY HADLEY FINCH:

There is no need, their texts to read, because this is a typical example of how people text messages and SMS behavior interpreted every day. Want to avoid these misunderstandings in the future?

Then stop SMS your date, except to discuss logistics, how do you end or change plans to meet. She could hit that would like that from now on, you by phone or in person, to stay in touch by SMS.

I would like to point out some dating red flags in this SMS scenario. If your date you dozens concerned were sent texts while you unreachable, she unwittingly showed a compulsive need for your attention. This is not attractive yet emotionally healthy, especially since only a short time have known each other you.

Granted, she could glöm on and are particularly vulnerable because she are going through a divorce. This is why I recommend that you immediately seriously out, until you already one year divorced.

This gives lonely time to regain your emotional stability, and learn your love lessons for your role in the resolution, so that you it in your next relationship not to repeat. It does not clearly this emotional work, when she accused their divorce, jerky husband.

So keep your eyes open, to determine whether you really this woman want to join her journey through divorce. If you do, then fasten for a bumpy ride.

You are on the road to recovery, three years after the loss of your wife. Since you out are, be aware, where a possible consensus on this path of lost love is the fire of love. Helps you learn their attitudes and actions of joy or turmoil?

You've just experienced turbulence via SMS. You can do this dating chemistry test and others to determine whether your date is emotionally equipped to create the type of dating relationship you want.

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Conversations, everybody has them, some will converse verbally while others prefer the skill of sending text messages. Is sending text messages really a skill? Well, lets just say it requires a certain amount of skill in knowing the right words to text. Much gets lost in the translation though when sending a text message. I learned plenty this weekend talking with my soon to be, 19 year old son. I'm sure there are many other teenagers frustrated with their peer group, who seems to work better behind keyboard.

While trying to understand the source of his frustration, it seems this generation is distancing themselves from the ability to effectively and coherently express themselves with words. Communicating verbally seems to be a challenge to many teens who go out on dates. Speaking of dating, that has a separate meaning all together in this day and time. I've learned that many teens are simply bored with your typical conversation and would rather send you a text message. For those teens and young adults (ages 19 - 23) who have interest such as reading, current events, politics and science, are considered boring people among many in their peer group. Many teens and young adults feel the pressure to "dumb it down" because being articulate, intelligent and informed is out and being a thug, being down and trendy is whats up.

Relationships

Relationships among our teens and young adults are defined in cyberspace. Although you will meet someone of interest, the relationship is mostly developed online first. When interested in someone and you want to get the "411" on them (get information) you become a friend on their social network site and read all about them (after all that is what many employers will do). Going out to dinner or to a movie seems to be for entertainment purposes, not to get to know each other. Relationships have taken on a different meaning with our youth in this century.

Many teen social circles and peer groups will use the word "Love" in passing or while greeting each other. Teens will see their friends in the mall, greet each other and even embrace for a moment and will say "I Love You" when they part. I can't help from asking, do our young people understand and know what love is? maybe not, but while doing a short survey among teens, I usually get the deer in the head lights look before they mumble a reply. The reply usually doesn't answer the question though.

Whats Love Got To Do With It?

When asking the question among teens and some young adults, I asked the questions:

How do you know when its love?
How can you use the same word (Love) to express how you feel about a pair of shoes a video game or your favorite food; then use that same word to express how you feel about someone?

Of course both answers were met with long pauses and confused expressions on their faces. In the attempt to show or express an attachment or a concern or caring attitude to those in their peer group, I believe the only word our youth can express how they feel, is this word love. In many cases, unrealized by them, their love is actually conditional and the true emotion of love has absolutely nothing to do with what they express to each other among their peer groups. It was perfectly understood when I gave examples of what love is.

It is refreshing to know that many teens and young adults, care enough about each other to greet, embrace and say "I Love You" to each other, maybe the adults can take a lesson from this.

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