Showing posts with label Commitment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Commitment. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Makes a Guy Fall in Love - How to Trigger Love That Leads to Commitment


How do you make a guy fall in love? Does it just happen, or are three things that you can do to trigger these feelings within a man? How does a relationship progress from casual dating to love and ultimately to commitment? If you are wondering what you can do to improve the chances that your guy will fall in love, keep reading for common sense advice about relationships.

Human beings are rarely satisfied. It is human nature to continually work toward and strive for greater levels of success and satisfaction. This is an admirable quality and one that men find very attractive in women. There is one area however, where this drive for taking things to the next level can get a little tricky. Men and women often have divergent goals when it comes to love and relationships. Women typically get excited about the prospects for the future while men seem to waiver and hesitate about moving forward to something more serious.

What should you do if you are in a relationship with a great guy who doesn't seem ready for love or commitment?

Be honest

Women are often warned about not talking to men about things like commitment and marriage. While it is wise to be selective about when and how you bring up these topics, it is equally important that you are honest with yourself and with a man about your expectations for the future. It is a mistake to keep this information to yourself and then get upset when things don't seem to be headed in the direction you had imagined.

One of the best no pressure ways to find out how a man feels about love and commitment early on is to ask questions. Find out what his family was like growing up. Has a negative experience colored his view of commitment and marriage? If so, that could be a warning sign that there will be some challenges to overcome. Find out what his future goals are. Does he even mention settling down at some point?

When it's your turn to share your thoughts about the future, be honest. Saying something like "my parents had a great relationship and I want something similar for my own life" is much different than "I can't wait to get married and have a family." The first statement tells a man that you are thinking about the future and your ultimate goal is commitment with the right person. The second statement says that you are too eager and anxious. With the right approach, you can make a guy fall in love.

Present a continuous challenge

Relationships grow when there is sufficient challenge to propel them forward. Both positive and negative challenges are beneficial to growing relationships. Negative challenges demonstrate your ability to cope and work as a team. Positive challenges demonstrate your ability as a couple to achieve great results together.
Most people don't go looking for negative challenges. They just happen and you have to be prepared when they do. But you can create positive challenges within a relationship.

Encouraging him to pursue his ambitions is one way to challenge your man, but challenges don't always have to be serious. Men love physical activity so why not use that to your advantage? Playful competitions can keep him interested and have him wondering what's next.

Keep the passion alive

You want to keep reminding a man about why he was attracted to you in the first place. Don't assume that because you snagged him, you can settle into neutral. In fact, this is exactly what men fear will happen and is part of their resistance to love and commitment.

If you want to make a guy fall in love, you must first be honest. Many men will tell you that it's hard to find a women who can be honest about her feelings without getting too emotional. Also remember that men need almost constant stimulation and challenges to feel happy. And finally, don't allow the passion to die.
Demonstrate to your guy that you know how to keep things exciting and you should have no problem getting the relationship to the next level.




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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.




Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Commitment - How to Tell What You're Really Committed To, in Love and Relationships Part 1


There are a lot of articles lately on the subject of commitment in relationships and love. There are entire e-courses written for men and women, who are struggling to find fulfillment in their relationships and romance, knowing that commitment is often missing or fleeting. But, we all have a sense, that commitment is something we really want, but often find difficult to achieve. There are many reasons, and, in this first article on this topic I will explore this area.

But, I want you to consider that one of the most basic steps toward achieving commitment in either romance, love or any other are of your life, is to be able to distinguish what you're already committed to. Often, we fool ourselves into believing that we are committed to something, but the results suggest something quite different, and that's the disconnect -- and the source of the results you're getting. You may say/believe that you are committed to finding the love of your life and really making that relationship work, but, if you look, you have really not spent the time it takes to date, make contacts on an on-line dating website or even smile at the opposite sex when you are out in the world. In this case, I assert, you've been fooling yourself, and if you really want power and results, it pays to first, tell the truth to yourself. Why does that give you power? Because in telling the truth, you can stop the pretense that's robbed you of the results you want. It's the pretense that we keep up, that keeps us from getting results. How can you get great results if you're essentially telling yourself a lie? There's little integrity in it. Sometimes, we fool ourselves to protect us from being hurt again, or from pain. It's a natural human behavior, but it's also counterproductive. It doesn't work and you keep getting the same result.

So, here is the simple acid test for determining what you're committed to, and there will be many who will disagree with this. But, I also assert, if you disagree with the following, you should consider that you may be one of those people who have been fooling themselves, and it's time to be straight with yourself, if you want the results you say you want.

SO: How you tell what you've been committed to, is to take a look at what you've got. Yup. Right now. If you say you're committed to being in a relationship, take a look back over the last 3-10 years. How many have you been in? How long have they lasted? If the answer is on the side of "none," I suggest that you've been committed to something entirely different: You've been committed to being safe, not getting hurt and not taking risks. Perhaps you HAVE been in relationships, but they have all ended without a long term commitment. In this case, maybe you've been committed to being in a relationship that's sufficient, but you've not been willing to do whatever it took to make it work and have the satisfaction you yearn for, or deal with REAL commitment. If you're committed to on-line dating, how many emails have you sent, unsolicited? How many IMs have you sent? If the number is low, consider there's no real commitment there. If you're waiting for someone to find YOU, then be prepared to extend the time in which you'll find someone. And, that may be OK with you. Everyone has their own pace. But, in this article, I am assuming that you actually DO want to find a long lasting, satisfying relationship soon, or you wouldn't be reading this far.

How do I know this? I take a look at myself. I have been in two relationships with great women in the last six years. One lasted four years, and then, the other, one year. In the first, I tried and tried to have her be committed, but I could never achieve that. In fact, I got angry and made her the "bad guy" for not committing. BUT - what I really achieved was keeping her from being committed, by being someone who was angry about her lack of commitment, which provided no space at all for her to commit.

What I saw, in retrospect, is that I became angry because I was simply scared, believing that she would never be behind me, and never embrace me as her lover or husband. I subconsciously sabotaged her commitment! And, my actions kept the relationship safe, and while exclusive, there was no real commitment other than to be together and safely not fully committed. Insidious, isn't it? When you see women who have affairs with married men, there is a commitment to be related and intimate, but NOT to have to be truly committed in a situation where you have to give yourself fully and expect all the same in return. It's a SAFE relationship, designed to minimize emotional risk. It works for someone who's been previously hurt, but not for long. Ultimately, it keeps you from getting what you want. True love.

So, here is what there is for you to do with this information: Take a look at an area of your life, your romances, your relationships, where you are not having satisfaction or results. On a piece of paper, write down what you SAY you're committed to. And then, under that, write down the results of what you've HAD. The bottom notes are REALLY what you're committed to, under the guise of wanting the top. There are reasons why you've been acting that way, and I'll uncover these reasons next. But I'll give you one hint. It's a four letter word starting with an F and ending with an R. And, your next step will be to find out what you're afraid of, if you want to really have an impact on this area. As always, I believe that, the truth will set you free. You just have to distinguish it and then take action, whether that be communicating or otherwise.

By the way, this principle also applies to anywhere in life where you're not getting what you want. Examine the areas where you're not getting results and do the exercise above.




Dan Robertson has led seminars and coached hundreds of people in gaining more satisfaction and productivity in their lives. He is currently writing a series on commitment and dating, which will be released as an e-book and course in the near future. As a professional market researcher, he has conducted thousands of focus groups around the world dealing with people's perceptions, and has a degree in sociology.




Monday, April 16, 2012

Love and relationships - what are the secrets to getting a commitment?


You are confused about how to truly him to commit? How convince you it to him that you are the an and only woman for him? Does your man need a little pressure in the direction of engagement? Successful, committed relationships have certain things in common. Learn these universal truths and have no problems with him commit you and only you.

Good relationships start truth # 1: with good communication.

This does not mean that you talk about your relationship. There are many couples who often talk about what happens between them, but they do it in a negative and non-productive way.

There are two keys for good communication. Stay positive! This cannot be stressed enough. If a woman is positive, a man will automatically record it. Have you ever tried, be angry at someone, but notice that you can not because they make you even during a fight laugh? If you are positive that you have the same effect on a man. He have to stay hard time getting, or crazy, or far. Words are very powerful and negative words to do a lot of damage. Think always in front of you to speak, so you do not say something that you will not regret.

The second key is to consider the other person perspective. It is very easy to assume, that because something it got you by the other person said; but this is not always the case. Men are particularly good to block what we say because we communicate in a way that they have to respond.

Avoid confrontation. Go to men not very good, and who can blame them? Think about how you feel, coming from a place of anger someone you or damage? You are probably unprepared, and as you pass this, on the defensive. They make a wall automatically, and this person is not always through no matter how many words they can say.

Approach is always a difficult subject with an attitude that takes the best of the other person. For example, you might say, "Baby, I love you." And I know that you love me. This is why it so much harm if you said or did. "He'll more than likely agree that it was insensitive and without excuse rage, anger, or drama, because you have addressed it in a kind of open and loving." There are times that make our partners angry and at times, that anger is justified, but your message will be received better if you can be honest quiet and rather than emotional and accusing.

Truth # 2: trust is a necessary ingredient in any successful relationship.

To make it, you must commit to create a bond of trust. It is simple, directly in a relationship too fast and forget that trust is something that both learned and acquired. The first thing to determine is whether the man, your trust worthy of the which you are. Sabotieren you not your relationship through, provided that he is not to be trusted, because some other people in your past was not trusted.

Men want to be thrown in a category based on the bad behavior of some other guy in a pot and assessed. So yourself enough time to really see if this guy can be trusted.

Does he do what he says he will do? Is it his responsibility seriously? Trust other people have it? These are all things that you should be searched in every man, which you take seriously.

One way, with a man tell you to trust him to give him the space he needs and wants. Many women are insecure and prone to jealousy, because they think their man wants some time alone, it's because he no longer loves her. This is very harmful for a relationship.

Keep alive truth # 3: the passion.

If you want to commit him, you need to get the passion alive. If we know someone well to learn, we used it to that they go the spark to keep around and not as hard. Sometimes worn out from life, we all get to have a few difficult days here and since it's no big deal. But not in a rut.

Touch each other often. There are well-known psychological studies showing that people when they go to survive and prosper need to be touched. Touch breaks the walls which we sometimes grow up in relations. In addition to touch your man to say that it still attracts you. Can exciting things keep you intimacy with him for him by initiating your appearance and have a few surprises for him the next time when you see each other. Send small texts or phone calls, let him know that you expect to see him and tell him what he has to look forward to.

Know and practice these three truths about relationships helps really what want to commit him.




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Sunday, April 15, 2012

Love and relationships - how to get a commitment and a great relationship


You want commitment, love, and excellent relations? You are ready to go beyond playing the field? Do you know how to get your guy is committed to you? Many women do not understand that there are a few simple things to remember if you want to achieve absolutely amazing how you guy are. Here are a few ideas for you forward trying to of interwoven into love and relationships.

Thus, you have met a great guy and you would like to spend every minute with him! Do not! Even in the excitement of a new relationship, being always available significantly reduces your quotient of seduction. Follow your pre - guy activities. Here are a few things to remember:

(Always available) results by making it too easy for him.

() Are always available translates into drilling.

(Always available) results in no challenge, no price.

() Always available translated same old, same old...

Be always available very often means love and your relationship could slow down by the above reasons.

Now, a few things to keep in mind when you are with him. Exciting and find different, exciting things to talk about. For example, he knew local college team is going for the series, or of this large group play on Friday night in a bar in downtown? He talk about the killer-false-fillet steak you grilled hilarious dinner to this reality TV show you watched the day before. Absolutely tell stories on other friends, including guys. It can leave quite the wonder if there was a small competition, right? But stay away from political talk, until you're sure of love and relationship. If you do not see this happening, moving forward. You have the tools to find one of these other great guys out there.




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Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Love Test: you are fighting commitment or flowing into true love in a dating relationship?


If you are ready to take advantage of true love in a committed relationship, namely if you change partners or advance to the next level with your special date when you answer each question in this simple Test of love:

(1)
A. your special date and you bring the best the other in your personal and professional life?
B. you feel you need to break if you want to go out and become your best you?

(2)
A. you would rather be with your date than anyone in your romantic life?
B. do you want to continue the meeting and dating of many people for fun, or until you meet someone you do not want to lose?

(3)
A. can you say what you mean and communicate freely on any subject, including the vision of the future of your relationship?
B. do you feel you have to walk on egg shells, avoid talking about your feelings for another or modify what you want to say keep your date of jump or walk?

(4)
A. you go without effort more and more time together, explore each other hobbies or do things that foster conversations and growth?
B. you ask often if and when you will see your date once again, since you are not the later dates or plans?

(5)
A. you are meeting of friends and families and each other and the positive approval that you are a good match?
B. are, you another, seeing that you feel that you get some flack for dating or you do not know where this relationship is headed?

How register you?

** If you answered Yes to one or more of the "B" issues, you have probably confirmed your suspicions that you are struggling commitment in this relationship dating. What is the original resistance?

You will feel stifled in the egg.
You feel that you may have strong feelings for someone else.
Your skills in communication or interests may not be a good fit.
You may be distracted by the dating of many people at the time, but you have inspired to see that person exclusively or more often.

These signs of resistance that your dating relationship is blocked; It is not progressing.
It may be a synchronization problem that could change.
If there is a lack of compatibility or chemistry, which cannot change.

How much time are you willing to stay casual to see if things change?
Must be a mutual agreement to make changes that improve your connection. If you do not provide the two of you as a United team, it may be time to cut them loose so you are free to meet a compatible match who is ready for a committed relationship.

** If you answered Yes to one or more of the questions "A", you may be flowing freely in true love.

As long as you like to be together, to highlight the best of the other, improve your communication, chemistry, and the emotional connection, then your natural next step may be a committed relationship. United as a team, you will continue to co-create your special and unique love story.




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Saturday, October 1, 2011

Love Test - Are You Fighting Commitment Or Flowing Into True Love in a Dating Relationship?


If you're ready to enjoy true love in a committed relationship, find out whether you should change partners or progress to the next level with your special date when you answer each question in this simple Love Test:

1)

A. Do you and your special date bring out the best in each other in your personal and professional life?

B. Do you feel you'd have to break up if you want to break out and become your best you?

2)

A. Would you rather be with your date than anyone else in your romantic life?

B. Do you want to continue meeting and dating a lot of people for fun, or until you meet someone you don't want to lose?

3)

A. Can you say what you want to say and communicate freely about any subject, including the future vision for your relationship?

B. Do you feel you have to walk on eggshells, avoid talking about your feelings for each other, or edit what you'd like to say to keep your date from blowing up or walking out?

4)

A. Do you effortlessly spend more and more time together, exploring each others hobbies or doing things that promote conversations and growth?

B. Are you often wondering if and when you will see your date again, since you're not making future dates or plans?

5)

A. Are you meeting each others families and friends, and getting positive approval that you're a good match?

B. Are you seeing each other privately, because you sense you'd get some flack for dating or you're not sure where this relationship is heading?

How Did You Score?

*** If you answered YES to one or more of the "B" questions, you most likely have confirmed your suspicions that you are fighting commitment in this dating relationship. What's causing the resistance?

You may feel stifled.

You sense you could have stronger feelings for someone else.

Your communication skills or interests may not be a good fit.

You may be distracted by dating many people at once, but you don't feel inspired to see this person exclusively or more often.

These signs of resistance indicate that your dating relationship is stuck; it's not progressing.

It may be an issue of timing that could change.

If there's a lack of compatibility or chemistry, that may not change.

How long are you willing to keep things casual to see if things change?

It takes a mutual agreement to make changes that improve your connection. If you don't foresee the two of you as a united team, then it may be time to cut them loose so you are free to meet a compatible match who's ready for a committed relationship.

*** If you answered YES to one or more of the "A" questions, you may be flowing freely into true love.

As long as you enjoy being together, bringing out the best in each other, enhancing your communication, chemistry and emotional connection, then your natural next step may be a committed relationship. United as a team, you will continue to co-create your unique and special love story.




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