In the search to find your dream partner do you wear a mask? You are faithful to itself be? If you wear a mask, then you are not ready, your true love be found definitely not ready to be the perfect addition to this person and if you find, then just your ideal companion you are.

When it comes to relationships, we must always be true in our actions and our words and our perspective. If we love our life want to find, and if we want to be a perfect match for our partners, then we need to go to be honest and true to ourselves. We start on the road to honesty, by ensuring that we are lying to us, and we are trying maturity as we ourselves are behavior. Each time that we the perfect mate for our partner must want to we will make sure that we are not pretending to be someone, who we are not. A masked ball, where bears just picture everyone masks and they all are looking to find their dream partner. They are all wear masks because the part about hunting and the game of romance is. Want you to be mysterious and play at flirt. Of course, as we are looking for our perfect and are seeking the perfect complement for our partners, we must do exactly the opposite. Yes, it is good to be mysterious and not all to disclose your personal information to your partner in the pre and stages locate dating; However, we must also to harmonise that mysticism be with real honesty and ready to answer the questions that our partner is us and not make a habit of the diversion of the truth away. The truth will make us free in any case; It is not always the easiest way to go, but it is the best answer if you have a mature dating relationship and in addition with your perfectly match want to.

If you try to focus as a great partner for your perfect match behavior, you must not conceal your feelings to your partner or someone. Their emotions are very important, especially for a woman, and if you your feelings to suppress and not allow them space to breathe and will not be true to itself and will have an older dating unable, relationship and beyond with your new love interest. It is necessary in any case that you learn to control your feelings, so that you are not emotionally unstable or emotionally out of control. These two scenarios cause that to be you successful in your relationship with your soul mate.

If you are true to yourself and want to be always the ideal companion for your partner you need perspective openly and honestly to yourself about your goals and life. Happy to change your goals and perspective only to your partner, then you are doing not yourself or your partner not fallen. If you are in a relationship with your soul mate, both are you able to balance and be put at risk and to find your dreams and goals together.

Natalie Cook is dating a very well versed writer on the professional scene, able dating and matchmaking. It has been in writing and for a while and has published countless articles. Some who cook's favourite focus is to find tips for dating successfully, and so the best match. Enjoys also write about mature dating, love, and the best ways to find in today's hectic world.

Interview with Steve Nakamoto

Author of "Dating Rocks!: The 21 Smartest Moves Women Make for Love"

Reader Views' Managing Editor, Irene Watson, speaks with Steve Nakamoto.

Irene: Tell me about yourself and what inspired you to write a book for women.

Steve: Several years ago I thought that I had met the "love of my life." That relationship took a radical turn when the woman I loved met another man whom she later married. That was enough to jolt me into thinking more seriously about what really happens to people in romantic love relationships.

At about the same time, I was attending workshops and seminars on personal development and ran across the work of motivational expert Tony Robbins. I joined Mr. Robbins' organization as a seminar trainer and became well-versed in the studies of unconscious communication, goal achievement, and life mastery.

One of the things that I found both fascinating and humorous was how advanced communication strategies worked in the dating world. About that time I went on a social rampage where I went on over 25 Club Med vacations and 20 singles cruises. That was when I thought about writing a book about my dating/social adventures using the things that I had learned as a trainer for Tony Robbins.

Dating Rocks! is my second book. It is the result of over 225 radio and television interviews, 2 years of experience serving as iVillage.com's dating expert for the "Ask Mr. Answer Man" message board, and an additional 5 years of experience of dealing with dating/love/relationship issues.

Irene: 240 pages seems like a lot of information that women need to know. Tell me some of the things that you tell women in the preparation phase before dating?

Steve: Some of the smart dating moves that precede actually finding a man involve: 1) loving yourself first, 2) finding and fixing any personal blind spots, and 3) getting rid of any negative emotional baggage from the past.

Many failures that women experience can be traced back to this pre-phase where low self-esteem or bad attitudes from the past ruin a woman's chances for successful dating and love. So it's important that women take a closer look at these issues if recurring problems show up in her relationships.

Irene: Tell me some of the things that you tell women they should do to find a man

Steve: Once a woman has taken care of the before-mentioned prerequisites, she can begin moving forward in her search for the right man. In this stage, some smart dating moves include: 1) making herself attractive to a man, 2) avoiding losing love candidates, 3) staying clear of low-percentage relationship situations, 4) learning vital people skills, 5) learning how to excel at small talk, 6) becoming an outstanding listener, and 7) meeting men while they are involved in worthwhile activities or through a network of friends.

The next stage is about the actual dating process and includes: 1) interacting so that a man would feel comfortable asking a woman out for a date, 2) controlling the pace and direction of the dating process, and 3) gauging accurately how well the two to them click.

Irene: And, how about how to keep him?

Steve: You can only keep a man if the romantic chemistry and emotional maturity are both high. You also have to adjust his role to fit his priorities and level of desire. Then it's a matter of managing a woman's upsets, expanded the relationship into other areas of growth, maintaining an unlimited attitude of gratitude, and creating certainty and trust in the relationship.

These may seem like big concepts, but each one can be broken down into simple, everyday acts of kindness and understanding that any person can practice in their romantic love relationships.

Irene: Are these your own personal opinions or did you gather information from others?

Steve: I read a lot of dating/relationship opinions while I'm serving as the "Mr. Answer Man" for iVillage.com. But my base of knowledge comes from the seminars that I attended many years ago with relationship experts John Gray, Barbara DeAngelis, and Dr. Warren Farrell, as well as personal development/communication trainings with Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Mark Victor Hansen, and the Dale Carnegie organization.

So while my observations are my own personal opinions, they are well-grounded on concepts that I borrowed from experts that I highly regard.

Irene: You mentioned your studies with masters like Tony Robbins. How much influence has he had on some of the writing in your book?

Steve: Tony Robbins had more influence on my personal development than any other person or organization. I served for seven years as a personal development trainer doing intense seminars in Cancun, Hawaii, and the western United States.

Mr. Robbins' provided me with the motivation to write a book. My understanding of a key concept called "global metaphors" was a vital reason why I was able to write my first book, Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Catching a Man. Almost all of my psychology background was learned through Mr. Robbins' advanced seminars which were part of the trainers' training. I simply took the concepts that I learned from his seminars and applied them to the unique and largely untested field of dating.

Irene: You are a dating and relationship expert on an online discussion board. What is the most common issue that women share with men?

Steve: Both men and women are frustrated in their search for the "one." They both want a relationship with mutually high romantic chemistry, emotional maturity, and compatibility. But men seem to have more problems in maintaining high romantic chemistry with the women they fall for. Men also have more challenges in developing emotional maturity whereas women generally do not.

Irene: What challenges do women face more so than men?

Steve: Women have more challenges with self-esteem issues than men. They also seem to put more significance on love relationship and therefore, put more pressure on the situation in order to make it happen. It seems like men and women will often be out of rapport with each other because the woman needs a love relationship for fulfilling a wide variety of emotional needs. A man, on the other hand, wants love more for the enjoyment of being with a woman. A man can get his other emotional needs filled through his work, friends, and individual hobbies/sports.

Irene: How much of relationships are modeled after what people see on TV or in the movies?

Steve: People in their 20's and teens are greatly influenced by their peer group. Major media (television, movies, commercials, music) has a lot of power in conditioning people into what is considered attractive and what love should be like. But there are such a wide variety of movies out there that a balance can be struck between fantasy and reality when it comes to love relationships. But largely, the media tries more to sell the public on the idea of "love at first sight" as the more desired model for romantic relationships.

Irene: What area do you think is the most modeled after?

Steve: For women, media seems to influence the need to look skinny (except on top) and to wear certain types of sexy clothing in order to be physically desirable to men. It seems like the over-emphasis is on appealing to men in a sexual way.

For men, it seems like the need to be financially successful (Donald Trump) or to be physically strong/tough (athletes, rap music) as the best way to impress women.

The media also seems to focus a lot these days on celebrity break-ups and divorces which causes people to be less hopeful for lasting love relationships in their own lives. It almost appears that getting married is less of a commitment and more like a modern-day way to "going steady".....at least in Tinsel town.

Irene: What is a healthy relationship in your opinion?

Steve: A healthy love relationship has high levels of mutual romantic chemistry, emotional maturity, and compatibility. It has the side-effect of building mutual high self-esteem.

A healthy relationship reinforces the values of honesty, trust, commitment, caring, and giving. And bottom line, a healthy relationship is one that I believe: 1) feels good, 2) is good for each person, 3) serves a greater good, and 4) the Heavens are smiling and blessing the relationship.

Irene: I'm sure the reading audience wants to know if you are in a permanent relationship now?

Steve: Actually I get asked about this quite often. Yes, I am in a wonderful relationship with a woman I met a few years ago at a Dating Dinner. She's a partner in a law firm and is actually a very busy person with tons of responsibility. She's also read both of my books and has contributed her ideas from time-to-time. I really like her diversity in that she is obviously very intelligent and professional, but she can be just like a high school girlfriend when it comes to having fun. Our best times together in my opinion are the vacations that we've been on. That way, we both can get away and relax. I think it's important for busy couples to plan time away together so that they have something great to look forward to.

Irene: Thank you Steve, is there anything else that you want your reading audience to know about you or your book?

Steve: If people want to check out my book, I've got a sample of all 21 smart love moves for free on my website, http://www.DatingRocks.com . I practically give all the information away on this website, but the book itself is a more pleasurable experience with the cartoons, illustrations, quotations, and stories.

As a bonus for all of you who have spent the time to read this interview, I giving away a free 25 page special report which you can get by simply sending an email request to tips@menarelikefish.com .

Irene Watson is the Managing Editor of Reader Views, a book review service based in Austin, Texas. http://www.readerviews.com

People like people who like them. That's simple enough. But, in a new relationship, the timing of your expressions of interest and liking make a big difference. Let's say you've just met someone you'd like to attract, or you are on your first or second date. What's the most effective way to manage yourself emotionally so that your chosen person is likely to think well of you and want to see you again? Of course, many pieces go into a successful long lasting relationship, but what we're going for here is 'maintaining interest'. If you can't maintain the other person's interest and curiosity long enough for him or her to get to know the terrific person you are-nothing else matters.

In which of these situations do you think a person is more likely to have a positive opinion of you after a first encounter and want to see you again?

Scenario One. You meet your new chosen person and you are upbeat and open from the beginning, smiling and doing your best to assure that your chosen 'other' feels good throughout your encounter. You establish eye contact from the beginning such as a salesperson would do hoping to keep others comfortable.

Scenario Two. You meet and you are upbeat and open at the start. Then as time passes the halfway mark of your encounter, you pull back slightly. Not noticeably, just enough that you are more private than at first meeting, as if you are carefully thinking about the future.

Scenario Three. You meet and at first are slightly edgy, a bit more private and slow to smile. At the halfway mark of your encounter, you smile more easily and make solid eye contact. The most upbeat element of your time together is as you are parting.

We all have anxieties, especially when meeting new people. For a person to want to repeat the experience of being with you, it's important that he or she feel comfortable and at ease. But studies have shown that the timing of that easiness makes a big difference.

Scenario One leaves the other with a vague uncomfortable feeling that maybe you like everyone and he or she is not really special to you. Scenario Two leaves the other with a sense he or she has done something wrong and, perhaps, you are too sensitive and too much work.

Scenario Three is the rhythm most likely to leave someone wanting to see you again, that you are an interesting person. You have shown thoughtfulness by leaping into the meeting being positive before you've had time to make some judgment. Still-at this is very important-you have come to the conclusion that you do like your new 'chosen' person and gradually become more enthusiastic. He or she will feel slightly relieved and more special. If you withhold too long, you'll push the other awaited frustrated.

But, some will say, isn't this manipulation? Of course, but learning how to stop botching your own relationships is what learning and trying new things is all about. If your new relationship keeps going, it will keep going because of who you are. A psychologist might be able to help you write an essay to get you into a good college. But only you can prove worthy of the opportunity.

Barbara Rice DeShong, Ph.D.
A Psychologist on the Loose
The Secret of Life
Confidence
Why Not You to Hit it Big?
http://www.mysteryshrink.com

Timing is everything they say. There is an old worn out myth that declares if you are past 40 or "gasp" 50 you will not be able to find a good relationship. BS! The right astrology influence simply hasn't crossed your chart yet! If you have gone months or even years without a relationship and feel that a loving relationship is just not meant to be for you then think again. There are special times in life that the planet of love and romance is activated and those are the times that the universe will bring you a loving relationship if you are open to it and have not formed a belief that is blocking a loving relationship from being in your life.

Venus is the planet that rules love, relationships and the things in life that we love. When looking for the times in your life that love will enter look at the times when the planets are making contact with your Venus. Each planet that makes contact with your Venus will have a different quality and different type of opportunity for self growth and relationships. When Jupiter crosses over your Venus that is a time when you will have more opportunities to date and meet someone. You can feel happier and better about your circumstances. This is a time that the universe is whispering to you- hey check it out, there are plenty of people on the planet, surely if you look around someone will be right for you.

Saturn transits (influencing) your Venus can be tough. It is a time when the universe tells it like it is about what you have and what you don't with all that you value. Saturn will give you a big reality check over all details Venus. So you say you want a relationship? Really??? Asks Saturn: When was the last time you got off your butt and did something about it? Saturn is definitely a kick in the pants. Saturn demands that you take responsibility for your part in not being in a love relationship. Are there longtime issues that you never worked out? Get therapy! Are you overweight and do not feel attractive? Lose weight and get in shape and feel sexy again! Are you someone you would want to be in a relationship with? Be more loving and giving; be the person that you want to be in love with. Saturn will push you to be accountable in your life. The truth may be that there is only a part of you that wants a relationship and keep falling for unavailable men because by definition of being in a relationship with someone who is not available you get to keep part of your freedom. Saturn says get real! Once that happens a relationship comes into your life and a new journey begins.

When Uranus is bouncing around your Venus your time has come to get back into the swing of love and relationships. Someone may suddenly appear in your life from your past. This energy opens the heart but your relationship might look impulsive to outsiders. Many times a fast marriage takes places with Uranus Venus energy. If you marry in the early part of the transit (the time of this energy can take up to two years) you will have a couple of years of major adjustments. If you have been out of the dating scene for a while this energy is bound to bring in fun excitement and a relationship when you least expect it.

If you are longing for a relationship and your Venus is being influenced with Neptune chances are the relationship you find will be filled with romance and wonderment. I wonder will be part of the dialogue: I wonder if he loves me? I wonder when we will see each other again. I wonder if he will leave his wife. I wonder what is going to happen with us. Neptune tends to make this relationship very iffy. It is best not to have expectations with Neptune. Disappointments, deception and illusions run rampant with the shadow of Neptune. Many relationships under this influence teach you the qualities of unconditional acceptance and love and you can find that this relationship is an exercise in spiritual development and growth.

When Pluto is part of the astrological landscape in your Venus life then a very powerful, passionate and profound relationship enters your life. This relationship can permanently alter life as you know it. Many times who you were before you met this person morphs into an older wiser individual. Pluto can take you to deep depths of emotions and feelings. If you have unresolved childhood issues then this relationship can seem to pull them up from the hidden caverns from which they had been locked away.

Relationships are an integral and fulfilling part of human love and life. The times that you are single and do not have a significant partner in your life can be times that the universe is giving you an opportunity to attend to other parts of your life. The astrology seasons of Venus are the times that partnership and love enters into your life. As you have learned astrology has many useful tools for you to implement that will help you understand love and relationship cycles in your personal life. However this knowledge cannot be put to use without first knowing the astrological influences. Defend yourself with astrological knowledge and stay attuned to the constant changing sky and learn to be your own life coach with astrology.

Astrology is an incredible tool to help you navigate life. However without the tools and resources to know what is going to happen and how to make the best use of the astrological energy you are missing out. To find out when the next astrology shift is about to happen go to http://www.astroplanetnews.com

Why choose love dating site?

The question of the protection of personal information

This is a question that most of the people with a love dating site would be anxious to answer. There are many benefits attached to this issue. With the help of a love dating site presents you with an arena where freely and voluntarily express you your love through privacy. Why do you need privacy? You need because the early of any romantic relationship stages and even the final phases need some personal information.

Buy love for free

Love dating site offers you the possibility to pay for free love. Most of the sites will be available free registration for its customers. Will they not necessarily give you with a partner at first, but with the option so that you can make a decision if he or she is just the game just for you. You are given the opportunity to look at some profiles, giving you a source of inspiration of what features and attributes that have different possible dates.
Therefore, you may need to consider only the potential dates that provide, or in need of love if you really want to love. Also keep in mind that you will be site meet possible dates both searching for exactly the same thing that you aspire for a dating of love.

Have a valid contact with a potential date

A free love dating site can not offer you. For you to have the benefit of everything, you may improve your free category of attachment to a paid or subscribed membership. Don't be afraid because it is usually done for something as little as nothing. Doing and after a rigorous selection, you will be appropriate to contact. This is where you let your emotions to play the game. This should be the most exciting and the most delicate of your dating experience. When you get in love dating site, select your target very well. Do not the looks although they also count. Note that all you need is love. Love is not in the appearance of the person. If you are looking for love, ranger experience that may act as a barrier. Put out of your mind all negative response or the denunciation of a partner would-have-summer.

Be creative

The ultimate goal of love dating site is to you and initiation to the love for the process. So forget what can seem to be a question and answer session. Generate an informal correlation with the date of your potential and let him or her see that you are smart enough to understand it. Let your potential date see you as a tender joint, not an interested partner. That you're looking for nothing more than love.

Are you doubtful that you can seduce a possible date in love? Why not connect to the Site of meetings of love. Take these important steps and capture the love that you are looking for.

A successful dating relationship depends a lot on finding the right kind of a partner. It is impossible to understand the character or behavior patterns of a person even after years of interaction, let alone at the first glance. Therefore, to start a successful relationship you need tremendous patience, communication, and open mindedness. You can have a successful relationship by taking some precautions and by following some practical guidelines.

Let your past help your future

Face it we have all had past relationships that may have started well enough but didn't end so well, and for those of you who have had success the first time out congratulations and well done, but for the rest of us this hasn't been the case so let your past help you with your future. Look back and what did and didn't work in your previous relationships, that means not just looking at your partners but also at yourself because face it we weren't saints either. I am sure you have all heard the term baggage as it refers to relationships so lets open that luggage and unpack it already. Past experiences are wonderful learning tools for future endeavors in the dating arena. I believe that my current relationships is working so well because I took a long look at what worked and didn't work for me in the past and made sure what didn't, didn't come with me.

Communication, open your mouth and let it out

Dating is a lot like ordering from a menu at a restaurant after all you wouldn't just go out to dinner and tell the waiter bring me what you like now would you Dating is much the same way, we expect our partners to just instinctively know what it is we want or need, to anticipate everything as it pertains to us. This is a complete and utter falsehood, they have no clue what we want or need this is why it is so important to put being shy and fearful aside and verbalize what works and doesn't work for you, what you want and what you need from them for you to have a happy, healthy and successful partnership. I was very clear with my partner in our first conversation about who I was, what I was looking for, what I needed from a partner, yes it was difficult to be that honest but I don't regret it at all because I had nothing to loose in the first place and well we have a great relationship today and we continue to check in with each other about what works and doesn't work for us.

Don't loose yourself

Lastly but most importantly don't loose your identity in your relationship, do not become what you think your partner wants you to be in order for he or she to be with you. After all it was you being you that attracted them to you in the first place so please don't forget that. I see so many of my friends give up who they are, give up their autonomy and become what they think their partners want, if you have to do that for someone you think you love, then it isn't love it is you fading into the wallpaper and allowing your needs to go unmet in order to have what you think is love.

Allen Tane is an experienced writer on the successful dating market and dating industry. He has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of Allen's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, relationships, and matchmaking service. Allen's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their daily activities.

People like people who like them. That's simple enough. But, in a new relationship, the timing of your expressions of interest and liking make a big difference. Let's say you've just met someone you'd like to attract, or you are on your first or second date. What's the most effective way to manage yourself emotionally so that your chosen person is likely to think well of you and want to see you again? Of course, many pieces go into a successful long lasting relationship, but what we're going for here is 'maintaining interest'. If you can't maintain the other person's interest and curiosity long enough for him or her to get to know the terrific person you are-nothing else matters.

In which of these situations do you think a person is more likely to have a positive opinion of you after a first encounter and want to see you again?

Scenario One. You meet your new chosen person and you are upbeat and open from the beginning, smiling and doing your best to assure that your chosen 'other' feels good throughout your encounter. You establish eye contact from the beginning such as a salesperson would do hoping to keep others comfortable.

Scenario Two. You meet and you are upbeat and open at the start. Then as time passes the halfway mark of your encounter, you pull back slightly. Not noticeably, just enough that you are more private than at first meeting, as if you are carefully thinking about the future.

Scenario Three. You meet and at first are slightly edgy, a bit more private and slow to smile. At the halfway mark of your encounter, you smile more easily and make solid eye contact. The most upbeat element of your time together is as you are parting.

We all have anxieties, especially when meeting new people. For a person to want to repeat the experience of being with you, it's important that he or she feel comfortable and at ease. But studies have shown that the timing of that easiness makes a big difference.

Scenario One leaves the other with a vague uncomfortable feeling that maybe you like everyone and he or she is not really special to you. Scenario Two leaves the other with a sense he or she has done something wrong and, perhaps, you are too sensitive and too much work.

Scenario Three is the rhythm most likely to leave someone wanting to see you again, that you are an interesting person. You have shown thoughtfulness by leaping into the meeting being positive before you've had time to make some judgment. Still-at this is very important-you have come to the conclusion that you do like your new 'chosen' person and gradually become more enthusiastic. He or she will feel slightly relieved and more special. If you withhold too long, you'll push the other awaited frustrated.

But, some will say, isn't this manipulation? Of course, but learning how to stop botching your own relationships is what learning and trying new things is all about. If your new relationship keeps going, it will keep going because of who you are. A psychologist might be able to help you write an essay to get you into a good college. But only you can prove worthy of the opportunity.

Barbara Rice DeShong, Ph.D.
A Psychologist on the Loose
The Secret of Life
Confidence
Why Not You to Hit it Big?
http://www.mysteryshrink.com

A successful dating relationship depends a lot on finding the right kind of a partner. It is impossible to understand the character or behavior patterns of a person even after years of interaction, let alone at the first glance. Therefore, to start a successful relationship you need tremendous patience, communication, and open mindedness. You can have a successful relationship by taking some precautions and by following some practical guidelines.

Let your past help your future

Face it we have all had past relationships that may have started well enough but didn't end so well, and for those of you who have had success the first time out congratulations and well done, but for the rest of us this hasn't been the case so let your past help you with your future. Look back and what did and didn't work in your previous relationships, that means not just looking at your partners but also at yourself because face it we weren't saints either. I am sure you have all heard the term baggage as it refers to relationships so lets open that luggage and unpack it already. Past experiences are wonderful learning tools for future endeavors in the dating arena. I believe that my current relationships is working so well because I took a long look at what worked and didn't work for me in the past and made sure what didn't, didn't come with me.

Communication, open your mouth and let it out

Dating is a lot like ordering from a menu at a restaurant after all you wouldn't just go out to dinner and tell the waiter bring me what you like now would you Dating is much the same way, we expect our partners to just instinctively know what it is we want or need, to anticipate everything as it pertains to us. This is a complete and utter falsehood, they have no clue what we want or need this is why it is so important to put being shy and fearful aside and verbalize what works and doesn't work for you, what you want and what you need from them for you to have a happy, healthy and successful partnership. I was very clear with my partner in our first conversation about who I was, what I was looking for, what I needed from a partner, yes it was difficult to be that honest but I don't regret it at all because I had nothing to loose in the first place and well we have a great relationship today and we continue to check in with each other about what works and doesn't work for us.

Don't loose yourself

Lastly but most importantly don't loose your identity in your relationship, do not become what you think your partner wants you to be in order for he or she to be with you. After all it was you being you that attracted them to you in the first place so please don't forget that. I see so many of my friends give up who they are, give up their autonomy and become what they think their partners want, if you have to do that for someone you think you love, then it isn't love it is you fading into the wallpaper and allowing your needs to go unmet in order to have what you think is love.

Allen Tane is an experienced writer on the successful dating market and dating industry. He has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of Allen's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, relationships, and matchmaking service. Allen's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their daily activities.